Importance Of Self Confidence In Life

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Have you heard the phrase ‘self confidence’ being thrown around? Or do you already know what it is but just can’t grasp the importance of self confidence? Well, you should know, it is one of THE most important contributors to success and happiness in your life. Without it, your chances of living a fulfilling life may be below average.

What is Self Confidence?

Self confidence is your belief in your abilities. You may have a lot of self confidence in one aspect of your personality, such as your sense of humor. But completely lack it in another area. The same is true with your abilities. In short, it is well-founded trust in yourself. When you have TOO much self confidence it can often come across as arrogant or cocky.

Arrogance and cockiness

Often people confuse self confidence with arrogance or cockiness. It is NEITHER of these two things. Arrogance and cockiness are awful traits to have. If you come off as cocky or arrogant, you’ll give off the impression that you believe you are more important than other people. Or that you have a misplaced sense of achievement and ability that does you do not possess.

If you show this sort of behavior you will push people away from you. Furthermore they’re most likely to think you’re a bit of a chump.

On the other hand, if you have too LITTLE belief in yourself, you may come across as having extremely low levels of self confidence. And this isn’t a good place to be either.

Low Self Confidence

When you have low self-confidence it infects every part of your life. You may be under achieving. Working a job far below your potential, or not accomplishing a dream you are more than capable of. Arguably low self confidence is worse than arrogance or cockiness. Because if you spend your whole life with low self confidence you aren’t going to live a full and rewarding lifestyle.

Low self confidence is a disease in your life that you need to stamp out immediately.

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Importance of Self Confidence

Think of self confidence as a spectrum. On the one side is low self confidence and on the other is arrogance. The ideal place to be is dead center. This may be hard to do because your view of your confidence is warped by your thoughts. The way the world is may be different to the way you see the world. Everybody’s reality is different. If you’d like to know if your belief in your ability is overly confident or unconfident. The next belief you have, think about the reasons why you feel this. Are they facts or are they illusions you’ve just been telling yourself.

Reasons Self Confidence Is So Important

Key to success

Self confidence is one of the most important keys to success. Somebody who has self confidence in their abilities and talents EVEN if their average, is far more likely to succeed than somebody who has amazing abilities and talents with NO self confidence. Without self confidence a person with amazing ability simply isn’t going to have the belief in themselves and their talents. So won’t bring them into the world.

Humans seek confidence in other people

As human beings, we’re programmed to seek out confident people. Whether you’re looking for a relationship or friendships you normally go to people who seem confident. How many people do you know that like to spend time with somebody who is too afraid to talk or start a conversation with them?

Self confidence changes your perspective

Enough about other people. One of the most important parts about high self confidence is that you will see the world in a different way. A better way. When you have low self confidence you’ll probably come from a position where people don’t like you. Or that you’re not good enough. This, in turn, starts to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Creating a cycle of false thoughts that in turn bring real evidence and it circulates and circulates. The same will be true on the flip side. The importance of self confidence comes from the fact that when you have self confidence and act in a way that conveys this. People will respond to you in kind and you will get more than somebody who acted unconfidently. You’ll get the job at a job interview. The people you’re into are more likely to be into you.

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The importance of self confidence when taking risks

What risks have you taken lately that you’ve wanted to? If you find your lack of belief in yourself holding you back then you REALLY need to change your self confidence issues. The importance of self confidence in these areas will increase your ‘risk-taking’. You see when you have high self confidence you know longer see these tasks as risk-taking. You have a deep EMOTIONAL knowing that whatever happens you are going to bounce back from it and thrive in any condition. And that’s the importance of self confidence. The awareness that any situation that comes your way not only can you handle it, you’ll make the best out of it too!

Remember one BIG symptom caused by a lack of self confidence is shyness, find out how you can overcome shyness here!

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How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

Everyone has the feeling, You get trapped in your head at a crucial moment when you need to speak up. Maybe you think you’re not good enough for a job you really want to apply for. Or perhaps walking to the shop gives you anxiety. If you’re interested in learning how to get self confidence when you have none, then this guide is for you! However, you should be warned it’s not for the faint of heart.

First of all

Before you start to read the rest of this article you need to start developing one belief in your head. “It’s possible.” Rather than believing you are incapable of doing something, just start telling yourself “it’s possible.” Tell yourself this as much as you can. When you hear yourself speaking negatively, give yourself a gentle reminder” it’s possible.” Think about it whilst you’re drifting off to sleep. When you wake up in the morning put a sign up in front of your face telling yourself that “it’s possible.” Keep doing this until you believe that ANYTHING is POSSIBLE.

What’s possible? What is “it”? It’s anything you want it to be. Anything in your life you wish to accomplish is POSSIBLE for you, it may not be 100% guaranteed, or likely, or even probable. But it is POSSIBLE. You’ll be amazed at the actions your willing to take when you believe in your mind something is possible.

I recommend watching a motivational speaker call Les Brown. His words inspired me to believe everything is possible and if you listen to him, the same will happen for you.

Picture quote: Nothing is impossible, the word itself says "I'm possible"

How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

What is Self Confidence?

The literal definition of self confidence is “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.” So to get self confidence you just need to trust your abilities, qualities, and judgements. A piece of cake right?

Abilities and judgment

If you want your judgement and abilities to be better there is ONE thing you need to do. You need to become competent in that area. Everyone has a confidence. I assume when you brush your teeth in the morning you are confident you can. How did you gain your confidence? Through getting competent at cleaning your teeth. Repetition every day. To gain self confidence in other areas of your life you just need to get competent there too.

So what is it that scares you? I used to be an incredibly shy guy. I have missed so many opportunities because I lacked self confidence in the past. My BIGGEST issue was talking to people. I used to be so bad everyone would sit on one side of the classroom and I’d sit on the other side ALONE. Guess how I overcame that limiting self confidence.

Repetition until I was competent. I literally threw myself into situations where I had to be confident. I moved countries, I took jobs that forced me to talk to people all day. At first, I hated it. I wanted to come home when I left. If it wasn’t for my friends I probably would have. But staying was the best decision I made.

You don’t have to move countries to get more self confidence. Whatever area of your life you want self confidence in you JUST need to repeat the action until it becomes second nature to you. If you lack self confidence about job interviews. Apply for as many as you can. Even ones you don’t want just to get your interviewing skills up. If talking to people is where your confidence is lacking. Go talk to 100 people or 1000 people. However many it takes until you’re completely competent.

The ONE way to get TRUE self confidence is to become competent. And the MORE competent you get in multiple scenarios the MORE confidence you’ll gain altogether.

Trust in one’s qualities

The more you start getting self confidence through being competent the more you will trust in your qualities. But in the meantime, you can still think of some qualities you DO have. Stop focusing on the negative traits you THINK you have. Lack of self confidence, nervousness, anxious etc. And think about your GREAT qualities, or qualities you can easily adopt. Generosity, helpfulness, and patience are just a few amazing qualities you have or can acquire easily.

And the more competent you become the more your other qualities will begin to shine. Humour, Talkativeness, and action-taking will all follow soon after!

Picture Quote: "In the end some of your greatest pains become your greatest strength

Now You Know How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

Are you ready? This is the quickest method on how to get self confidence when you have none. BUT it’s also the hardest. Are you prepared to make 100’s of mistakes for the life you deserve? If so then go out and start taking action. It’s hard but it’s rewarding. Keep a journal or make note of how far you’ve got in a week/month/year and you’ll be amazed at the difference.

Are you curious about the steps I took to gain self confidence? From moving to France to becoming a PR in Greece I wrote a short summary of what I did here. Remember If this seems a bit extreme to you, you can take smaller steps. Start talking to the cashiers when you shop, join a new club. go for a walk. It doesn’t matter what you do. JUST START DOING.

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