How To Choose Your Attitude Towards Life

Choose Your Attitude Towards Life

What is the separating factor between someone who lives a happy life and someone who doesn’t? I believe it is their attitude. If you carry on reading you will learn how to choose your attitude towards life AND how this will impact you positively. But first…

To Choose Your Attitude Towards Life Is The Only REAL Choice You Have

The number one reason that your attitude towards life is SO important is that it’s the ONLY thing you truly get to choose. As much as we’d like to wish, our circumstances are not in our control. Every day there are a lot of external circumstances that are beyond your control. You could miss a bus that came early, and be late for work. Or your favorite food might not be at the supermarket. God forbid, you could even be in a life-changing accident. And none of these things are in your control. The ONLY thing you can control in that situation is how you react to it.

As Viktor Frankl says:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

And how true is that? You can have EVERYTHING in this world taken from you EXCEPT how you’re going to act if that happened to you. Maybe you’re telling yourself that’s ridiculous. If that happened to anyone they wouldn’t be able to go on living. Well, Viktor Frankl, the man who came up with that amazing quote is a Holocaust survivor. He DID have everything taken away from him and remained happy.

Have you ever heard of a man named W Mitchell? If you haven’t you should definitely check him out. He was completely set on fire AND survived a plane crash. Unfortunately, he ended up being horribly disfigured and lost the use of his legs. But how do you think he reacted to this situation? While a lot of people at this point would give up on life, W Mitchell didn’t. In fact, he’s become an amazing motivational speaker…

Not to mention the many successful people who had to go through immense hardships in their own lives!

Now maybe your troubles don’t seem so bad

“Attitude More Than Aptitude Determines Altitude”

Have you ever heard this saying before? And if so what do you think about it? I personally love it because it’s so true. No matter how much talent or skill somebody has, it doesn’t mean diddly squat if they don’t spend their time improving it. If they don’t have the right attitude then they’re skill is never going to matter.

However, on the flipside, someone who’s lacking in aptitude can easily make up for it with attitude. Determination, grit, and resilience are far more valuable in the long run than any amount of natural skill or talent.

So don’t feel like your life’s not fair because you’re not apt at anything. Find something that you enjoy doing get the right attitude, and pour your hours into it. You’ll be amazed at how much talent begins to be uncovered. And how high you can go.

Has Someone You Know Got A Negative Attitude

If you TRULY want to know why it’s important to choose your attitude towards life, then simply look at the people around you. Is there someone you might know that’s always in a bad mood. There’s always something going wrong in their life. Always something to complain about?

Their negative attitude is attracting negativity into their life. I don’t mean this in the law of attraction kind of way. I mean this literally. If you have a bad attitude you’re always looking for the negatives in your life. And when you’re doing this what do you think you’re going to find…

Now, how many people do you know with a really great attitude? No matter what happens they just keep on smiling. Maybe you think they’re naive but the truth is, unconsciously or consciously they’ve made a decision to only focus on the positives in their lives. And in doing so they will see more positives.

So just like them choose your attitude. Choose to only focus on the positives and watch how many positives will start to show up for you!

What Happens When You Choose A Positive Attitude?

When you have a positive attitude you’ll find that you’ll be able to push a little bit more every day. Whether it’s one more rep at the gym, one more hour at work, one more whatever, with a positive attitude you’ll be able to find the reason to keep going. And the truth is that success isn’t one big action. When you choose your attitude you’re saying today we’ll be a success. And enough successful days makes a successful month, then a successful year AND eventually a successful life.

What Happens When You Choose A Negative Attitude?

The bottom line is this, when you choose a negative attitude you will live an unhappy and depressing life. The world is going to beat on you, again and again, that’s how life is for everyone. And if you go round with a terrible attitude it’s only going to be worse for you. Your poor attitude will show in all areas of your life. From the way you conduct yourself to the way, you hold yourself. Maintaining a negative attitude for long enough will ensure you’ll never get what it is you desire. Because you can only focus on the negative things pulling you away from it. Instead of the positives pushing you towards it.

Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us

How To Choose Your Attitude Toward Life

Choose Your Attitude The Moment You Wake Up

I’ve talked before about the importance of a morning routine. And one of the most important things you can do when you wake up is taking the time to choose your attitude. The first thing you should do when you open your eyes is to decide that you are going to have a successful and productive day. This choice alone will get your subconscious mind working towards making it happen!

Some good thoughts to have are:

“I am excited to see what happens today!”

“I am going to give this day my very best, so that I may rest my head with deep satisfaction tonight.”

“Opportunities are everywhere.”

“I am here to do great things”

When you start thinking these thoughts consistently everyday especially first thing in the morning, you’ll start to reprogram your subconscious mind until eventually, this will be your reality.

Remember Your Past Successes

Do you remember the feeling you get where you had a great win? Where something you really wanted came into your life. Recall that feeling and make it as real. Because in your subconscious it will be real. Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between reality and your imagination, use this to your advantage.

Start really envisioning your past wins and the future successes you want to happen. How can you have a negative attitude when you know you’ve been, and are going to positive places?

Expect Your Attitude To Lull

No one all of the time ever feels on top of the world. No matter how positive you are, at some points in your life, you’re going to feel negative. When this happens make sure you have something in place to boost your attitude again. For me, it’s motivational and inspirational videos. But for you, it could be completely different. Maybe it’s a song you love or your favorite quote. Be sure to have it ready, whatever it is.

Check Up On Yourself

Make sure you take the time throughout the day to check in on your attitude. Has your attitude been great up until this point? Or have you been letting negative thoughts run your day? If you do find this happening make sure you follow the step above and get yourself back into a positive attitude.

If you’re having trouble remembering to do this, put a reminder or alarm on your phone a few times throughout the day which will remind you to shift your attitude to a more positive one!

Write Down Your New Plan

Thinking is great, but writing down is better. I don’t know why but there’s something about bringing what you want into this world, even if it’s on paper. That really gets you going. I don’t know if it’s because you feel more committed to yourself or because you can see that it’s ‘more real’ but if you write down your commitment to having a positive attitude, and put it somewhere you can see it. You’ll be amazed at the difference it will make in your life!

Remember What You Are Grateful For

What do you have in your life that you are grateful for? When you remember everything that’s going on it’s hard for you not to be grateful! You could be working at a job you hate and think negative about it. OR you could see that while you don’t like your job. At least you have the luxury of being able to get a job, there are many people in the world that physically can’t work for whatever reason.

Be grateful that you woke up this morning. Remember life isn’t guaranteed. You should be happy you’re alive. In fact, you should be happy you’ve even been born. The chances of your birth are 1 in a trillion. Yet here you are! You were the one that made it.

When you start looking you’ll find hundreds of reasons to be grateful in your life.

Plan Ahead

There are some situations that are going to happen that is just going to affect your attitude. When you see these problems on the horizon plan ahead. Think of your song or quote that’s going to help you overcome this bump. If you have to reward yourself for this negative situation, to get yourself back on track.

The most important thing to do is not wallow! Once it’s happened move on from it. You should never let one negative minute of your day affect the rest of your day in a negative way!

Like I said before, you don’t get to decide what’s going to happen, you only get to choose your attitude in any situation.

Your Attitude Towards Life Is Your Choice

So, whether you want to spend the rest of your day in happiness or misery is up to you. It may be hard but at the end of the day, no one can control your thoughts but you, so start taking the time to bring positive thoughts into your mind, and slowly over time they will sink into your subconscious. Until this becomes your natural way of thinking.

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Build Your Life – Step By Step Success Guide

Build Your Life Step By Step Success Guide

For so long I believed that life was something that happened to you. And maybe if you’re reading this you’ve just stumbled across this post and think the same thing. But I hope you haven’t and if you DO carry on reading you’ll find out how drastically you’re happiness can improve when you learn to build your life.

Why Should You Want To Build Your Life?

You Have A Victim Mentality

Do you have any of these thoughts in your head about life:

  • Life happens TO you
  • You’re not in control of your life.
  • If something bad happens it must just be fate.
  • Why bother trying to make something of your life, because you don’t really have any control
  • You believe that other people are just more ‘fortunate’ than you are.

These thoughts are completely negative and completely untrue. If you want to build your life kick them to the curb forever. Because the real truth is right now you’re walking around with a victim mentality. Stop feeling victimized about the way your life is. You have in life exactly what you’ve put into life. Maybe something bad has happened to you. Or a string of bad things has happened to you. You could be going through the hardest part of your life. But the truth, the very bottom line is this:

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.’ – Viktor Frankl

And when you make the CHOICE that your life deserves to be better than you are going to go out and make it better. Then you will see it starting to work in your favor.

And if you don’t know who Viktor Frankl is, he’s an AMAZING man who not only survived but thrived in the concentration camps during World War II by keeping his attitude correct and choosing how he was going to live his life with what had been given to him!

To Give You A Clear Foundation And Plan

When you have a clear, precise idea of what you want you can start to build on it. Choosing to build your life gives yourself a foundation to work on. Deciding that life is happening TO you, is the first step in taking the steps to change it. And once you have your foundation now you can start to build a plan for how you want your life to be. You stop being a tumbleweed blowing through the desert of life. You’ll begin to grow roots that go deep into the ground as you grow towards your goals and the life you want

Steps You Can Take To Build Your Life

Step 1a: Take Responsibility For Your Life

The first thing you need to do before anything else, (if you haven’t realized already) Is TAKE responsibility for yourself. If you’re over 21 and you’re reading this then your environment is the sole results of your actions in life. Whatever happened in your life is not as important as how you CHOSE to react to it.

Up until this moment, you may have been living in ignorance of this fact. And that’s fine. You can’t be blamed for not knowing what you don’t know. But from this moment onwards, whether you like it or not, you have NO excuse to not start taking responsibility for your life and your attitude towards it.

Step 1b: Empowerment – You’re Calling The Shots

If you don’t already you should start to feel empowered. You are the CEO of your life, you’re calling the shots. From this day forward you can CHOOSE to take your life in the direction you want it to go. So start making some positive calls in your life.

Think of the things that are going to start benefiting you and start moving towards them. Learning more and getting healthier are GREAT places to start.

Step 2: Removing The Negatives From Your Life

I don’t care what it is a tv show or a friend, if they’re not supporting you and helping you build your life (which you should also be doing for them) then you need to cut them out. It may only be temporary or it may be forever.

TV is easy to remove, but removing a friend is a lot harder. However, you have to understand if someone is constantly affecting your life in a negative way then they aren’t a good friend. If you tell your ‘friend’ you want to work on your dream instead of wasting your day and they don’t understand. Then they’re affecting your life in a negative way. I’m not saying remove all your friends. It IS important to socialize but make sure they understand that you ALSO need to spend time taking responsibility for your life and working on making it better!

And the hardest one of all. Removing the negative thoughts from your mind. They may have been there a lot longer than your friend and getting them out may be the hardest task you will face. But with the constant daily effort, you’ll begin to change them from negative to positive!

Step 3: Figure Out What You Want From Life

And start working towards it. This will normally turn up in your daydreams. For me, it was to never be tied to one job in one spot. I read a book called the 4 Hour Work Week and knew that I wanted to live a life where I wasn’t tied to one spot. And today we don’t have to. Everything has changed in the age of the internet. Whatever you want from your life you can have it. If you want to be rich now’s the best time ever to be rich. If you don’t care about money and just want to be free (like me) this IS possible for you! Just figure out what it is that you want!

Step 4: Take More Positive Actions

So now you’ve figured out what you want from life, no matter how crazy it may seem, start taking positive actions towards it. And remember the crazier your dream, the bigger the actions you’re going to have to take! Also the older you are the more drastic the actions are going to have to be.

In the book ‘The Millionaire Fastlane’ there’s one part where he talks about a meteor hurtling towards Earth. If you give the meteor a tiny nudge when it’s extremely far away it’s going to hurtle far away from Earth. However the closer that meteor gets to Earth, the bigger the push that will be needed to steer it off course. The same is true for your life, unfortunately. The older you are, the bigger the push you’re going to have to give if you want to see positive results in your life.

And like I said before you have NO excuse now not to make this push. You are in control of your life and if you CHOOSE not taking action in your life. It’s only YOU who can take the blame not your ‘circumstances’ when you have lived a life that you weren’t happy with.

Step 5: Building Your Routine

You have your destination, you’re aware of the positive actions you need to take in order to build your life. The next step is building a routine you can stick too. Routine is important because, unfortunately, willpower is finite. Having a routine you can stick to decreases the amount of willpower you need therefore making it easier to get done what needs to get done.

Think about your morning routine. Does it require an enormous amount of effort to get up and get showered or clean your teeth? Probably not, you do it automatically. And the best way to build a life that you want is to make the actions you need to take every day an automatic process!

Step 6: Constantly Educate Yourself

There are things that you don’t know right now that are going to change your life when you do know them! The more you educate yourself the more you’ll find these little veins of gold. When you’re not working on your ideal life. You should be learning about ways to improve it currently. As a rule of thumb, you want ‘80% Do & 20% New.’ What I mean by this is that you want to be working on building a life you want 80% of the time and learning information the other 20%.

Doing this will ensure that if you are hitting roadblocks it won’t be TOO long before you figure out what’s wrong and work around it!

What You’ll Begin To Notice

When you start to take control of your life you’ll notice something begin to happen. Your self-esteem will begin to skyrocket and your general satisfaction with life will be greater. This is because although you haven’t reached it yet. You’re well on the way to the goal you want AND not only this, you have something you’re shooting for. And given enough time you are bound to succeed at!

So make it your goal to build your life the way you want too! Instead of settling for a mediocre existence. The choice from this moment forward is all yours.

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How to Overcome Shyness With PRACTICAL Steps

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You’re about to go to a party with loads of people you don’t know. Or perhaps it’s an important business meeting. The thought of talking to all those people is making your stomach wrench. It’s going to be the same thing again. You don’t make conversation with anyone. You look around the room for something that isn’t there. And eventually after all of the awkward interactions you go home. Feeling a little bit disappointed and with some serious FOMO. Change that today and learn how to overcome shyness!

Steps For Overcoming Shyness

Even the thought of overcoming shyness can be daunting. I mean you’re going to have to go out and start talking to people. Are you getting sweaty just thinking about all the blunders that you’re going to make? If so then here are some helpful actions you can start taking BEFORE you start socializing!

It’s Okay For People Not To Like You

You can’t go through life pleasing everyone. That is a fact. And yet do you still try? Accepting that not everybody is going to like you is one of the fundamentals of overcoming shyness and in fact letting your personality shine altogether. So stop playing yourself down and show the world who you really ARE.

Stop Labelling Yourself as Shy

Your subconscious mind is basically an organic computer. Whatever commands it gets, it fulfills. What do you think your subconscious is going to do if you keep telling yourself your shy? It’s going to do EXACTLY what you’re saying! And carry on being shy. If you want to stop being shy then stop TELLING yourself your shy. You’re becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the deeper into this cycle you go, the harder it will be to get out.

If you don’t want to lie to yourself and doubt that you could convince your mind you’re not shy just by belief then you need to…

Remember Times You Haven’t Been Shy

At some point in your life, you have been super confident. Think of the times you’ve been on fire when the crowd LOVES everything your saying. Even if the crowd is just your closest friend, at least you KNOW you’re not always shy. Start thinking about these moments when you get a minute and make them as clear and vivid as possible. The subconscious can’t distinguish between reality and memory/fantasy. So every time you remember it, essentially you’re reprogramming your subconscious to BELIEVE that you are confident.

Plan Ahead

Likewise are there times when you’re particularly shy? If you know there are certain situations where you are going to be overcome with shyness, pre-emptively think about things you can do to combat that situation. If you know you get shy when going to a job interview, practice the answers you think you would give. When you know you’re shy about talking to new people, have some jokes you can set yourself up for to get the ball rolling. I tell the same joke to 90% of people. As long as they don’t hear it getting repeated who’s going to know?

Practice Speaking To Yourself

I’m not the greatest speaker. My voice is low and I mumble when I’m tired, so sometimes people can find it VERY hard to understand me. When you’re shy this is the last thing you want. If you pluck up the courage to talk to someone and then they don’t understand what you’re saying that is REALLY going to aggravate your shyness. Practicing to yourself doesn’t mean you have to sit in a room talking to yourself. But when you are having conversations. Make your talking VERY deliberate. If you’re not sure what to do some quick tips are to talk louder than you think you should, and slower than you think you should. Obviously, this is a general rule, and if you’re already a slow talker you probably don’t want to go any slower.

Plan for Your Weaknesses

Is there that you can think about when you’re particularly shy? And is it a situation that you’re going to find yourself in multiple times? Think about how to overcome shyness INSTEAD of how shy you’re going to be. If you get nervous just thinking about talking to your work colleagues, plan some open-ended questions you can use to get the ball rolling. And if you can try to get people talking about positive things. For example, you could ask “What good things have you got going on this week.” By doing this they’re forced to give you an answer that isn’t yes/no AND also they’re receiving a positive experience because they’re going to be getting excited about whatever they have planned.

Visualise the Best Case Scenario

What’s the ABSOLUTE best thing that will happen if you do what you’re scared of? If you truly want to know how to overcome shyness visualization is a great way. As I said earlier the subconscious mind can’t distinguish between what is real and fantasy. So if you can visualize the best case scenario vividly, in as much detail as possible. In your subconscious that has REALLY happened.

don't let your shyness ruin great opportunities

How To Overcome Shyness When You’re Out

Did you come to this article looking for tips on how to overcome shyness you can use instantly? Whilst the long-term benefit above are great, they aren’t going to get you instant results. If you don’t know what you can do at the moment to overcome shyness, then this section is going to be perfect for you.

Look Approachable

When you’re walking down the street how do you look? Have you got a scowl on your face or are you looking down at the ground? Do you look like a person YOU would want to talk to? If not what can you do to look more approachable? Think about holding your head higher and having a pleasant expression across your face. Keep your body open so you give off a more welcoming vibe. All of these things will make people want to talk to you. And not only this, when you open your body up, your emotions immediately become more positive and welcoming.

Spend a Little Bit of Time With a Lot of People

This can be nerve-racking at first. But when I go out, if I want to get out my shell and become a bit more social, I will literally just talk to everybody I stand next to. Nothing special just ‘hows it going’ and then moving on. It’s sort of like you’re progressively getting over your fear in small increments. Think of some way that you can do this in your own life and start practicing it. You’ll be amazed at the difference.

Listen More

You’ve heard this advice a thousand times before. And that’s because it works! If you want to know how to overcome shyness then the best thing that you can do is stop talking as much and start becoming a great listener. Everyone wants to be heard and the best conversation someone can have with you is the one where they’re doing all the talking! Learn to listen more and your shyness will dissipate rapidly when everyone’s talking about what a great conversationalist you are!

Be vulnerable

So you’ve worked on your demeanor and you seem approachable and kind. You’ve spoken to a lot of people around you so your confidence has been boosted. The people you’ve spoken to LOVE you because you’re such a great listener. And now there’s only one thing left to do. This can be the scariest part of it all because you’re showing the world who you really are.

Let yourself be vulnerable for a second. That doesn’t mean you have to show sadness or tell a deep dark story. When I was shy I didn’t show any emotions. But if someone cracks a joke you love, then don’t be afraid to laugh. If you’re excited, show people you’re excited. Try to avoid negative emotions in front of people you don’t know very well. But DEFINITELY, show positive emotions and risk being laughed at. Because even if someone does laugh. It’s not going to be anywhere near as bad as you think.

Things To Remember

It’s Okay to Mess Up

One of the worst things about being shy is the belief that everyone else has just got it. They never make any social faux pas. Well, that’s simply not true. And in the fact the less shy you get the more mistakes you make. When I’m talking to people now a number of jokes I make that nobody laughs at. Or the times I’ve said the wrong thing at the wrong time is embarrassing. But that’s okay. It doesn’t bother me anymore. So don’t be afraid to blunder. As long as you handle yourself in a respectable way afterward and go through life with the right intentions you’re going to be fine!

No One’s Going To Notice

Don’t worry about messing up. The person you’re talking to won’t notice anyway. Because they’re going to be too busy thinking about whether they’ve messed up. People are JUST like you. So if you’re concentrating on what you’re saying. Then you can safely assume the other person is doing the same. So stop worrying about what you’re saying because nobody else is. In fact, make a point of really focusing on what people around you are doing and you’ll notice how many mistakes EVERYBODY makes. We’re all only human.

You Are Interesting

Don’t ever feel like you’re not interesting. You have literally lived a whole life of experiences that everybody else only knows a fraction of. The memories and emotions are solely unique to you and nobody else. How can you not feel interesting when you’re completely different from everybody else around you. If you think you aren’t interesting, then you’re just not being imaginative enough. If you still don’t feel like anything you have to say about YOUR life is interesting. Start telling stories you know about other people or events that have happened. People LOVE stories no matter if they’re yours or somebody else’s!

Do You Have A Better Understanding Of How To Overcome Shyness?

Now that you’ve read this article are you feeling a little more confident in yourself? If you wanted to know how to overcome shyness I hope you now have a good grasp of the things that you need to do! Remember that you DO have it within you to conquer your fear!

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How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

Everyone has the feeling, You get trapped in your head at a crucial moment when you need to speak up. Maybe you think you’re not good enough for a job you really want to apply for. Or perhaps walking to the shop gives you anxiety. If you’re interested in learning how to get self confidence when you have none, then this guide is for you! However, you should be warned it’s not for the faint of heart.

First of all

Before you start to read the rest of this article you need to start developing one belief in your head. “It’s possible.” Rather than believing you are incapable of doing something, just start telling yourself “it’s possible.” Tell yourself this as much as you can. When you hear yourself speaking negatively, give yourself a gentle reminder” it’s possible.” Think about it whilst you’re drifting off to sleep. When you wake up in the morning put a sign up in front of your face telling yourself that “it’s possible.” Keep doing this until you believe that ANYTHING is POSSIBLE.

What’s possible? What is “it”? It’s anything you want it to be. Anything in your life you wish to accomplish is POSSIBLE for you, it may not be 100% guaranteed, or likely, or even probable. But it is POSSIBLE. You’ll be amazed at the actions your willing to take when you believe in your mind something is possible.

I recommend watching a motivational speaker call Les Brown. His words inspired me to believe everything is possible and if you listen to him, the same will happen for you.

Picture quote: Nothing is impossible, the word itself says "I'm possible"

How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

What is Self Confidence?

The literal definition of self confidence is “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.” So to get self confidence you just need to trust your abilities, qualities, and judgements. A piece of cake right?

Abilities and judgment

If you want your judgement and abilities to be better there is ONE thing you need to do. You need to become competent in that area. Everyone has a confidence. I assume when you brush your teeth in the morning you are confident you can. How did you gain your confidence? Through getting competent at cleaning your teeth. Repetition every day. To gain self confidence in other areas of your life you just need to get competent there too.

So what is it that scares you? I used to be an incredibly shy guy. I have missed so many opportunities because I lacked self confidence in the past. My BIGGEST issue was talking to people. I used to be so bad everyone would sit on one side of the classroom and I’d sit on the other side ALONE. Guess how I overcame that limiting self confidence.

Repetition until I was competent. I literally threw myself into situations where I had to be confident. I moved countries, I took jobs that forced me to talk to people all day. At first, I hated it. I wanted to come home when I left. If it wasn’t for my friends I probably would have. But staying was the best decision I made.

You don’t have to move countries to get more self confidence. Whatever area of your life you want self confidence in you JUST need to repeat the action until it becomes second nature to you. If you lack self confidence about job interviews. Apply for as many as you can. Even ones you don’t want just to get your interviewing skills up. If talking to people is where your confidence is lacking. Go talk to 100 people or 1000 people. However many it takes until you’re completely competent.

The ONE way to get TRUE self confidence is to become competent. And the MORE competent you get in multiple scenarios the MORE confidence you’ll gain altogether.

Trust in one’s qualities

The more you start getting self confidence through being competent the more you will trust in your qualities. But in the meantime, you can still think of some qualities you DO have. Stop focusing on the negative traits you THINK you have. Lack of self confidence, nervousness, anxious etc. And think about your GREAT qualities, or qualities you can easily adopt. Generosity, helpfulness, and patience are just a few amazing qualities you have or can acquire easily.

And the more competent you become the more your other qualities will begin to shine. Humour, Talkativeness, and action-taking will all follow soon after!

Picture Quote: "In the end some of your greatest pains become your greatest strength

Now You Know How To Get Self Confidence When You Have None

Are you ready? This is the quickest method on how to get self confidence when you have none. BUT it’s also the hardest. Are you prepared to make 100’s of mistakes for the life you deserve? If so then go out and start taking action. It’s hard but it’s rewarding. Keep a journal or make note of how far you’ve got in a week/month/year and you’ll be amazed at the difference.

Are you curious about the steps I took to gain self confidence? From moving to France to becoming a PR in Greece I wrote a short summary of what I did here. Remember If this seems a bit extreme to you, you can take smaller steps. Start talking to the cashiers when you shop, join a new club. go for a walk. It doesn’t matter what you do. JUST START DOING.

You can also use body language to increase your confidence.

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How To Remove Fear From Mind And Heart

How To Remove Fear From Mind And Heart

We all have moments in life we wish we could say or do something yet the fear and pressure makes us cower away. Afterwards, we go home and kick ourselves about the missed opportunities. The chances that we might have just missed out on. If you want to experience everything you can in life you need to face your fears. So it’s time for you to start becoming courageous, own up to your problems and learn how to remove fear from mind and heart.

There are a million tips on how to remove fear from mind and heart but these are some of the BIGGEST ones that have helped me in the past and I hope they help you too!

Don’t hide your fear

Everyone feels fear. Stop acting like it’s something to be ashamed of. If you try to hide your fear from other people or yourself you are clouding your own mind. Therefore taking the focus and concentration away from battling your fear. Let others know that you are scared and remind yourself it’s okay to be scared too. Once everything is in the open you’ll have one less problem to worry about. Accepting that you don’t have to hide your fear is the first step in how to overcome fear in mind and heart!

Start focusing on the best case scenario

Start thinking about the great possibilities that will happen if you face your fears. The limit of your capability is only stunted by your fears, so stop worrying about what could go wrong and start thinking about what could go right. Use that as motivation to confront whatever is making you afraid.

For example, I used to be really afraid of talking to new people. I’d always be playing the same thoughts over in my head.. “What if they think I’m weird” “What if I say something awkward” or “What if they laugh at me behind my back.”

These thoughts held me back so many times, probably from people who might now even be my best friends! You need to realize that you are in control of the thoughts in your head. So you get to choose whether you think positive ones or negative ones! Once you start thinking positive your fear will fade away.

It may not always be easy but it will always be worth it.

Accept the worst case scenario

Although this seems contradictory think about the worst possible situation that could happen. Realistically it may be an inconvenience. Is it going to be life threatening though? Is what you’re afraid of going to change your life permanently for the worst, with no hope of redemption? If it is then this guide isn’t for you. But if not, lighten up a little. Remember life’s a game, so start playing. As a rule of thumb if something isn’t going to bother you in 5 years then you should go ahead and do it. You may be rewarded for it.

Start believing in yourself

Part of the reason you might be feeling fear is that you simply don’t believe in yourself. Start trusting your gut instinct that what you are doing is right. Don’t worry about what other people are thinking, they may not understand your goals and they’re not walking down the same path as you. If you really want to know how to remove fear from mind and heart FOREVER it’s through believing in yourself.

Your fear is an indicator

Stop seeing fear as something you should avoid. Because in fact, you should be grateful when you feel fear. When you feel fear that is an indication of the direction you should be going. Think of it this way, your fear is your body’s way of saying “This is important to me, don’t mess it up.” Before you learn how to remove fear from heart and mind. Make sure you know where your fear is trying to get you. “Fears that aren’t confronted become limits”

Want to overcome you fear? Read: Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action

Remember times you have succeeded in the past

Think about all the times in your life you have overcome your fears. The moment is never as bad as the constant worry leading up to it. Instead of focusing on the buildup to whatever frightens you at the moment remember how you felt the last time you conquered your fears.

What fear have you conquered that you can call upon?

Did you overcome the fear of starting a new job? Or maybe there was a guy or girl you plucked up the courage to speak to? Take some time to remember moments you overcame your fears. Next time you begin to get scared, remember this moment and it may give you the boost of courage you need.

And most importantly…

Remind yourself that your fear is a chain holding you back from everything that you want in life, these are your two options: “Try and see what happens” or “don’t try, and 100% fail”.

Don’t trick yourself into believing that not taking a chance = not failing. The moment an opportunity isn’t seized it is lost. And you have failed by default. I don’t know about you but I think someone who tries and fails is 100x better than somebody who never bothered trying!

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” – Helen Keller.

What Are You Going To Do Now?

You now have a choice. You can forget everything you have read in this article and go on living life avoiding fear. Or you can take what I’ve said on board. Maybe go out and find other ways to overcome your fear. And then change your life forever. The choice is up to you. But I hope you know that if you decide not to act, it may result in grave consequences for you down the line. Who knows what you’re going to miss out on.

You have no excuse. You now possess the building blocks on how to remove fear from mind and heart.

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How To Become An Optimist

How To Become An Optimist

Most people go through life always expecting the worst and not believing in themselves. Doing this is the equivalent of going through life with the brakes on. When pessimism fills your subconscious, you won’t perform as well. Think about it, when you don’t feel something can be done, you don’t work as hard on it and therefore, set yourself up for failure. So without further ado, this is how to become an optimist.

What it means to be an optimist

If you want to know how to become an optimist it’s important to understand what an optimist really is. Being an optimist doesn’t mean that you never see the negatives in life.  An optimist is someone who sees’s reality exactly how it is, and then finds solutions to the obstacles they may be facing. It’s about seeing the negatives and the positives and believing those obstacles can be overcome. It can be any belief. A belief in God, fate or destiny, or even a belief in themselves. When this belief is matched with a willingness to find solutions and overcome obstacles, success is pretty much guaranteed!

Remember being an optimist isn’t just about having your head in the clouds but also your feet on the ground. So don’t ignore reality, negative events and bad circumstances in your life. Instead, you need to find the best in any situation and have the belief and hope that you will succeed. No matter what!

Top tips on how to become an optimist

Going from being a pessimist to an optimist is hard. So here are some top tips that you can use to start becoming more optimistic. Results may not be instant but if you stick with this, change your behavior and mindset then eventually you will live a happier and more fulfilling life.

Stop seeing obstacles

Stop seeing obstacles as things that are holding you back from the path to success. Instead, you need to understand obstacles ARE the path to success. When you’re an optimist you know that every obstacle brings you new wisdom and strength and will give you valuable knowledge for the rest of the journey! Instead of seeing roadblocks as obstacles, begin to see them as opportunities!

Focus on possibility, not impossibility

It’s incredibly easy to look at impossible situations in your life give up and go back to the 9-5. But when you’re truly an optimistic person you stop focusing on the impossibilities. You can’t change them so there’s no point focusing your time and energy on them. Instead, you’re always looking for new possibilities that will take you where you need to go. Doing this will show you new roads that weren’t visible before.

 

Question your circumstances

Every time something ‘negative’ happens in your life ask yourself these questions:

  • “What is one thing that is good or positive about this situation”
  • “What is one thing I can learn from this situation”
  • “What is one opportunity within this situation”

When you find the answer to these questions, any situation becomes a positive one. So begin to make it a habit to ask yourself these questions whenever something seems to go wrong in your life. You might find the positive from this situation far outweighs any negatives.

Start your day with gratitude

If you want to know how to be an optimist this is my favorite tip. When you wake up in the morning be grateful. Be grateful that you’ve woken up. Many other people won’t. If you’re reading this be grateful that you live in a country with access to the internet. Be grateful for everything you have. And most importantly carry this spirit of gratefulness through the day. It’s hard not to be optimistic when you realize how much life has already given you.

Record your daily progress

Start taking the time to record your progress no matter how small it is. And don’t pay attention the results every day. After 3 or 4 months look back on your results and if you’ve stuck to what you want to achieve, you’ll see just how far you’ve come. This can be an amazing way to become an optimist but only if you stick to it. If you don’t feel like you can stick to recording progress every day then this might not be the best idea for you. When you record on and off for a few months but don’t see your results properly, you may become discouraged. However, if you are a disciplined person this tip can be perfect for you.

Surround yourself with optimistic people

 

What better way to learn how to become an optimist, than by spending time

with optimistic people. As the old adage goes “birds of a feather, flock together” If you want to become an optimistic person spend time with people who already are. If you do this for long enough, some of their behavior is bound to rub off on you.

Now you know how to become an optimist what choices are you going to make?

Are you going to keep your negative mindset and see the bad in life? Or are you going to commit yourself to change? When you make the commitment that you are going to live an optimistic life, you’ll see everything around you start changing for the better. The easy road may seem better in the short run, but the right road will be better for you in the long run.

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Morning Motivation – Tips To Start Your Day Right

If you’re like me getting up in the morning can be painful. But only when you don’t start your morning right. Once you change your morning to get the most out of it, you’ll become supercharged and super motivated AND set the mood for the whole day. If you want to get some morning motivation then this article is exactly what you need! Stop wasting your mornings and start using them to build momentum for your day!

Morning Motivation Starts The Night Before!

When you want to get motivated in the morning you need to make sure that you end the day before in the right way. Now you’ve probably heard the standard things not to do before bed. Don’t check your phone or electronics 90 minutes before you sleep, don’t exercise or eat right before bed, don’t go to bed drunk or after drinking caffeine. This is the standard advice given to everybody before they sleep.

But there’s one thing I really like to do before bed, that sets my morning up. And that gets excited. If you have something you’re working towards, get excited about it. Tomorrow’s another day for you to step closer to your dream and get work done on it. Be grateful that you get to wake up tomorrow with a roof over your head and food in your fridge. When you know that you’ve been given a gift in life that so many people don’t get the chance to have, it’s almost disrespectful to not be grateful and get excited about the fact that you are in a place where you have the ability to change your life!

Morning Motivation

Stay excited

 If you want to start your day full of morning motivation carry on your excitement from the night before. Write down your goal and stick it somewhere you can see it. Make it as big and bold as possible. You want it right in your face the moment you wake up. Because if you do this you don’t get a chance to let any thoughts slip in when you wake up. you’re immediately slammed with your dream.

GET UP

Once you’re up get up. If you’ve seen your dream and you still haven’t got excited then don’t just lay in bed anyway. The moment you’re up you need to get up and stay up. Don’t hit the snooze button. Literally get out of bed and get your feet on the ground. Once you’ve stood up you’re going to find it so much easier to get moving.

If you struggle to get out of bed there is a tip you can use that will help you. it’s called ‘The 5 Second Rule’ and it was created by Mel Robbins. Instead of having thoughts about laziness and shitting your snooze button. Just count down from 5. 5,4,3,2,1. And then get up. If you want to know the reason behind why this works then you should definitely head here https://melrobbins.com/the-5-second-rule/. But honestly, this rule works. And it won’t just work for getting you up but for motivating you in general.

Cold Shower Time

 Have you heard about getting a cold shower in the morning to try to wake you up? Then why aren’t you doing it! Starting your day with a cold shower is the ultimate wake up call. Start it off warm and then switch to cold if you have too. OR at the very least splash your face and arms with cold water to start off with. submerging yourself in cold water gets your heart pumping and the blood flowing. Not to mention the shock will wake you up instantly.

Honestly the first few times I did this I hated it but now I love turning the shower cold. You’ll feel refreshed and invigorated instantly. And let’s face it you’re already more hardcore than everyone else waking up in the morning who is taking a hot shower.

Listen to Motivation

Listening to music in the morning is a good start and it can definitely get you pumped. But if you really want great morning motivation start listening to motivational speakers. My favorites to listen to in the morning are TD Jakes, Les Brown and Eric Thomas. Or listen to a montage of all of them. There are so many motivational speaker compilations start listening to them. Even if you put them on in the background and don’t pay attention to them 100%, your subconscious is still taking them in!

NEVER NEVER NEVER CHECK SOCIAL MEDIA

This is the one thing that you will do that will start your day wrong. Don’t EVER check your social media first thing in the morning. We both know if you start checking your social media in the morning you’re going to end up scrolling through other people’s lives. You’re going to lose motivation before you’ve even started. Don’t check social media until you’ve had your cold shower and you’ve got a motivational playlist on. Then you’ll be in the right mindset to quickly check your social media accounts and move on.

Why Does This All Work?

There’s a hidden reason why doing all this in the morning works. It’s because you’re also using self-discipline. When you wake up in the morning sometimes it can be hard. It can be hard getting out of bed and jumping into a cold shower. It can be hard not going on social media and listening to motivational speakers instead of the music you want too. But when you choose to do what’s right over what’s easy, that self-discipline will be carried through the day. Eventually, it will become who you are and it won’t be hard anymore. It will just be a good habit. The sooner you start this the sooner it will become your normal morning.

So tomorrow, when you get up, are you going to make the most of your morning or are you going to hit the snooze button go back to sleep and ruin the rest of your day?

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Subconscious Mind Programming Guide

Subconscious Mind Programming

If you’ve found this page that means you’re aware of a few negative thoughts in your head. They’re not bringing anything positive into your life and IN FACT, could be causing you a lot of distress and panic. Through subconscious mind programming, you will be able to input positive thoughts into your subconscious and see FAR MORE positive results in your life!

What is the subconscious mind?

The subconscious mind is essentially a HUGE memory bank. Everything you have ever experienced in life is stored in your subconscious mind. If you think you’ve forgotten something, you haven’t. Your conscious mind may have. But somewhere deep down it is stored in the subconscious. Where it will be forever.

The subconscious mind is also responsible for all the automatic actions you take. For example, what is driving a car like now compared to when you first started. Can you remember focusing fully on every gear change, every indication? After a couple of months of driving, you may not even remember your trip to work! This is the same reason you don’t have to focus on breathing.

Why it’s so important to reprogramme your subconscious mind?

Just like driving becomes automatic, so will your reactions to situations you’ve been in multiple times. Emotions will automatically be triggered based on past experiences. Have you ever reacted to a situation in a way that you did not want too? That’s because your subconscious mind was running on autopilot. The truth is…

YOU are not in control of your body and actions.  “YOU” are your conscious mind. 95% of brain activity occurs beyond your conscious awareness. Just think about that. Even if you think to yourself “well I know I choose what I want to do it’s not my subconscious” that’s probably not true. Every conscious thought you have has been placed into your head by many subconscious thoughts. It’s estimated that 95-99% of your life comes from the programming in your subconscious mind. So if you want different results, you need to stop focusing on your conscious thoughts. And start taking care of the subconscious ones.

Subconscious Mind Programming – How It’s Done

Before you undertake any of these techniques you should try meditating. Meditating will relax your body and mind. Making you more susceptible for the input that’s about to go in. Meditation is also great at any point in the day when you’re getting stressed and need a breather. So it’s definitely worth turning this action into a habit.

Subconscious mind programming technique – easiest to hardest

Here are the techniques you can use ranging from the easiest to the hardest…

Subliminal messaging

Subliminal messaging is just one way to change your subconscious thoughts. Listening to audio with subliminal tracks running underneath when you’re asleep or awake is a powerful way of letting thoughts sink into your subconscious. This technique is the easiest because you can just sleep while your mind is being reprogrammed. How is easy is that? If you have a phone and a pair of headphones there’s NO EXCUSE for you not to start incorporating subliminal messaging into your life. Not when you can listen whilst your ASLEEP!

If you’d like to try subliminal messaging just search YouTube. There’s a ton of free content you can use.

 

Affirmations

Not quite subliminal messaging but pretty similar. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep you are constantly having a conversation with yourself in your head. If that conversation is negative you’re going to have a negative life. Saying affirmations like “I am full of energy” or “I have abundance in my life” repeatedly is a great way to change your subconscious thoughts. Be sure to remember that when you are doing affirmations to speak in the present tense and avoid negative words. For example, don’t say “I will not fail” say “I succeed” The subconscious mind can only recognize the present moment and doesn’t work with negatives.

A great app that I use on my phone is “ThinkUp” it’s free to download and lets you record affirmations that you can then listen to on repeat! I highly recommend downloading this app. It even allows you to play your affirmations with music so they sink into your subconscious even if you’re not focusing on them constantly! Pretty cool!

Suggestions

If you have a goal or agenda you really need to complete, let your subconscious be aware of it. For example, if you need to be at work for 7. Tell your subconscious “Tomorrow is a very important day. I need to be up at 6 am so I can make it on time for work”Once this is planted into the subconscious mind, that will happen for you without feeling the need to drag yourself out of bed. Because your subconscious now knows that it’s important to you! Using suggestions is a very powerful way for both parts of your mind collaborating.

Suggestions are great because they give your subconscious an EXACT task that it needs to follow. It almost trains your subconscious to follow the instructions of your conscious mind. All the while showing YOU and your subconscious the things that are important to you!

Visualisation

Visualisation is so great for your subconscious mind because it cannot distinguish what is real from what is imaginary. It is such a powerful tool for subconscious mind programming and one you should think about using daily! When you visualize your dreams and see them as they have already happened, your subconscious will start to align your actions to make your dreams possible.

When you visualize you want to keep very specific. Note the feelings and emotions you will have when you’ve accomplished your goal. What are you doing once it’s been reached? What does it look like? Sound like? Feel like? Ask yourself all these questions and visualize in as much detail as you can.

Another benefit of visualization is that it also motivates you to keep pushing when you don’t feel like it anymore. Because you have a clear end goal in sight.

How long will it take to complete?

If you’re looking for a quick fix solution then these probably aren’t for you. The number of years you have spent in a negative thought pattern cannot be negated with one 10 minute session of visualization. It could take a month or more to start noticing results in your life. But be rest assured the wait is well worth it

Imagine feeling great about yourself all the time. Or having the belief in yourself that anything is possible for you! With subconscious mind programming, this is possible for you! The time is going to pass anyway so why not make the most of it. Start creating a few healthy habits that are going to change your life for the better.

If you liked this article then you should check out another one on Limiting Beliefs. The article explains what limiting beliefs are (The specific ideas your subconscious has that are affecting you negatively, and how to break them down).

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Set Goals And Crush Them Effectively

How many things have you wanted to do in your life but failed to hit the mark? If you’ve started a task with tons of enthusiasm and drive but then fallen short of the mark, this guide is perfect for you! The reason most people don’t hit the achievements they want is simply that they don’t have an effective plan of attack for their goals. They don’t set goals and crush them effectively.

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The NUMBER ONE Thing That People Do Wrong

You want to know the first thing people do that completely ruins their chances of success. This ONE mistake so many people make, that holds them back from really crushing their goals. They set a goal they have no control over.

They set a goal that they can’t control. That they leave up to chance. You can see it in so many peoples goals… ‘I will make £2000 a month’, ‘I’m going to lose 10lbs’ or ‘I will have 10,000 visitors to my blog’. Are these results possible? YES DEFINITELY. But the most important thing that you need to do is change the goalposts. You need to make them a target you have complete control over. Instead of ‘I’m going to lose 10lbs’ your goal should be ‘I’m going to go running 5 times a week’ or ‘I’m only going to eat one unhealthy meal a week’. See the difference? These goals are completely in your control AND the end result will still be what your aim is.

How can people ever set goals and crush them when they don’t have full control over the end result?

How To Set Goals And Crush Them (SMART)

You’ve probably heard of the SMART method before in setting goals. If you have you can skip this section. But it’s always good to read over and refresh your memory. The SMART system for goal setting consists of 5 targets you need to have for every goal. You need to get Specific. Keep your goal Measurable. Make sure it’s something that’s Attainable. And keep it Relevant and Time-bound.

Specific

Make your goal as specific as you can. When making your goal specific think about: what EXACTLY it is you want to achieve? What do you need to do EXACTLY to achieve your goal? If your goal isn’t specific enough, you will end up going off on tangents. You may start taking tasks you think are useful, but really have no relevance to your end goal. Remember the more exact you are the more specific your goal will be.

Measurable 

How measurable is your goal? Make sure you have quantitative measurements rather than qualitative measurements. You want numbers that are consistently measurable. For example being happier is not an effective measurement, how can you measure happiness?. But measuring the number of hours you’ve cut from your working life, therefore, increasing your quality of life is. So aim for goals that have CLEAR measurability

Attainable 

This one is a bit of a fine line. You need to make sure your goal is something you’re definitely capable of. While at the same time making sure you’re not pushing yourself so hard that you will lose motivation and quit before your goal is complete. If you have to, aim for something that’s easier rather than harder. And as you progress begin to make your goal more and more challenging. Think of attainability as your carrot on a stick, you always want your goal just within reach.

Relevant 

Is this goal something that YOU want to do? Don’t set a goal just because you think it will make somebody else happy. Make sure this goal is relevant to what you truly want. Is running 5 times a week relevant to losing weight. Is writing more blog posts a month relevant to getting more visitors. YES. Keep your goals relevant to what you want! If your goals aren’t relevant, change them quickly.

Time Bound 

Make sure you have a time frame in which your goal must be completed. If your goal doesn’t have an end date then you may lose motivation because you have no sense of urgency to push yourself. Just like attainability, you walk a fine line. Make sure you give yourself enough time to complete your goal, but not too much time that you have no sense of urgency. And remember the bigger the goal the bigger the timespan. If you have a huge goal you need to complete, break it down into smaller more manageable goals with smaller timespans, that you can achieve quickly. To keep your motivation high.

What Is Your ‘WHY’?

You need to make sure you know exactly WHY it is you want to achieve your goals. When thinking about your ‘why’ a good trick is this: If you had to explain to somebody else why you have your goal, what would you say to convince them that this is something that is worth doing? Your ‘Why’ is so important so don’t overlook it like a lot of people do. Just like if you don’t set goals that you are in control of if you don’t know your ‘why’ your chance of success gets smaller and smaller as you lose your sense of motivation!

To set goals and crush them effectively remember:

It’s always important to use words that are ‘certain’ instead of words that are ‘maybes’. For example, you should say ‘I WILL do this’ not ‘I WOULD LIKE to do this’.

So to recap, Keep your goal:

  • Written down.
  • Clearly defined.
  • Easily measurable.
  • Something that is achievable for you.
  • A goal that is made for YOU and not to impress someone else.
  • And in a realistic timescale.

I’ve made this handy goal setting action plan that you can download and use to write your own goals:

Goal Setting – Free Action Plan

If you really want to set goals and crush them effectively. You can use this action plan more than once to make it more manageable. “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.”

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Escape Your Comfort Zone -10 Tips

 Are you getting bored with being stuck in the same place? However at the same time you’re too scared/lazy/apathetic to do anything about it? Then you need to read this guide on how to escape your comfort zone!

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Escape Your Comfort Zone – Ultimate Guide

What is a Comfort Zone?

A comfort zone is any space that you find yourself relaxed in. A place where you aren’t scared or exerting effort. For example cleaning your teeth (I hope) is in your comfort zone. It isn’t a physical space but a mental one. What you’re mentally comfortable doing. You may feel like your comfort zone is in your bedroom for example. But if you were suddenly sat in your bedroom with 100 strangers…it wouldn’t be too comfortable.

Why do you need to Escape Your Comfort Zone?

If you never left your comfort zone you’d never experience anything new in life. And that is what life is all about. Experience. If someone told you they could put you in a room with 3 meals a day and a bed, you’d be safe and live till 100. Would you do it? Of course not. But on a mental level that’s what you’re doing when you’re not always striving to escape your comfort zone!

The benefits of learning to escape your comfort zone now are also beneficial for you in the future. In the future you might be to afraid or uncomfortable doing something that, if only you put the time in now, you’d be completely comfortable with. So it’s imperative that you do everything that you can to escape your comfort zone!

Tips To Escape Your Comfort Zone

Know your why

 You should write down or memorize the reasons why you want to escape your comfort zone. If you ever find yourself shying away from new challenges you’ll be able to recall your reasons and tackle your fears head on! Knowing your why is not just beneficial in tackling your comfort zone but all areas of life. And you should be encouraged to write down your ‘Why’ for living.

Understand it’s an opportunity for you to grow

Every time you face a situation that takes you outside of your comfort zone, remember this is an opportunity for you to grow. Don’t get nervous about it get excited. No matter what happens you are going to grow as a person. Don’t view yourself as a failure. There is no such thing as failure if you take the lesson from what you experience.

Become a ‘YES’ Man

Have you ever seen the film ‘Yes Man’ Starring Jim Carrey? If you haven’t essentially the film is about a man, who whenever a new opportunity arises, he just says yes. That is a prime example of what your life should be like. Become a ‘YES’ Man in your own life!  By putting yourself in new scenarios and situations you force yourself to grow and expand everyday!

Think it out in your head

Whenever I’m nervous or anxious about leaving my comfort zone I rationalise things in my head. I think about the worst case scenario, and then how unlikely it is that it’s going to happen. For example if I’m going to a new job interview what’s the worst thing that could happen? I’m not going to vomit everywhere or have uncontrollable diarrhoea. The worst thing that will happen is that I’ll make a few mistakes and not get the job, there’s 100’s more!

Find a supportive friend

If there’s something that you’re anxious about doing and you can take a friend with you, then why not? Bringing a friend along could make you feel more calm and less worried. So why not bring a friend, maybe they want to do it as well. Then you can both get our of your comfort zones together!

Create an Ultimatum

Have you ever heard of the website www.stickk.com. You put money on a commitment to yourself and if you lose… That money goes to charity. While you don’t have to make a money ultimatum why not think of some ultimatums you can make with yourself that will push you to grow out of your comfort zone.

Never go with the safe choice.

Start making it a habit to never go for the easy or ‘safe’ option. Start doing the things that are going to challenge you and make you uncomfortable whenever they arise. Just like I said before, understand that everything you do is an opportunity to grow. So start doing the things that are more difficult and make you risk a little more. You’ll thank yourself in the long run!

Create challenges

Create challenges everyday then go and smash them. They can be daily challenges or bigger challenges that take more time to work towards. For example one day you could set yourself a challenge to talk to more strangers. A comfort zone challenge I set myself was to do a 5 mile obstacle course. Creating a bigger challenge like that made me push myself everyday.

Make it your mission to do the things you want to do!

It may sound stupid but you know what I’m talking about. If you want to learn Spanish sign up to a Spanish class. If you’ve wanted to be a better dancer, learn to dance. There’s a million things that the world has to offer. Stop being afraid of taking the chance. If you change your mind and don’t like it who cares? Maybe it’s just not for you. There’s a million other things for you to try!

Just take the plunge

If none of the above are working for you then there’s one thing left for you to do. ALL IN. You only need a couple of seconds of stupidity. Don’t think. Just let your body move and your brain be dead and just do it. Live in the moment and be an idiot. You’ll thank yourself later!

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