4 Hour Work Week Summary – Top 10 Lessons From The Book

Have you heard of the ‘new rich’ and wondering whether it’s truly possible to escape the 9-5? Is this book just another shovel seller trying to sell the dream that everybody wants, or is there information in it that you can use to change your life?

This 4 Hour Work Week Summary will give you the knowledge you need to make an informed decision on whether you should buy this book!

However, one thing that is important to note, is that this book definitely isn’t a get rich quick book. Instead, it’s a book that will help you change your way of thinking to become more effective (not efficient) which you’ll find out about later, as well as give you a blueprint on how to get the ball rolling!

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What is the 4 Hour Work Week About?

If you’ve never heard about the 4 Hour work week or don’t know a lot about it you may be curious to what it’s about. The book is about ‘lifestyle design’. Instead of living a life that is preordained for you and most people… Which is stay in education for 20 years, work a job you don’t really like for 40 years. And then hopefully have enough money to spend the last 20 years of your life not working.

You can choose to design your life to make the things that are important possible to you. And this book is all about making it so that you can choose to create a life that you want instead of following the beaten path! But you’re probably saying to yourself that is too good to be true!

Keep reading this 4 Hour Work Week Summary to learn the key points that are made in the book!

Lifestyle Design and Retirement

One of the main emphasis the book makes is addressed early on. The fact that the majority of people wish away most of their lives waiting for the golden years of retirement. They sacrifice their best years of energy for ‘supposed’ security when they’re old.

But Tim asked himself what was the point? We live in an age now where retirement may no longer be possible for some people. With the value of currency going down due to inflation, 401k’s falling through and wall street crashes, retirement isn’t as stable as it once was.

So what is the point in sticking at a job you hate? When the promise of retirement may not even exist for you anymore.

What if rather, you find ways to increase your hourly wage massively and take multiple ‘mini-retirements’ throughout your life? This is what lifestyle design is all about. But how do you do that?

Key Points To Take From The Four Hour Work Week

There are so many different key points in the book. Here are the main take aways you should take from the four hour work week!

1. Follow A Different Set Of Rules

Tim Ferriss is a big advocate of the phrase ‘Ask for forgiveness, not permission.’ And if you read the 4 hour work week you will understand why.

When you read the book you’ll begin to see that the ‘rules’ set by society are merely ILLUSIONS that we have all tricked ourselves into believing. Once you realize that reality is an illusion you can DESTROY your assumptions on what can and can’t be done!

I used to be under the illusion that you were supposed to just get a normal job and work until retirement too. I started this blog when I was 24 and a bartender. This book was on of the books that influenced me to aim higher, and now at 30 I own my own company creating blogs online! 

And this is entirely possible for anyone, but you need to learn to shift your views from what society has told you about what's possible and not possible.

So the big rule is to “never follow the status quo if you can do something that is more effective OR more fun”. Just because everyone else is doing it a certain way, doesn’t mean you need to do it that way as well!

You should always be looking for innovative new ways to do things better because this is where you can drastically cut the amount of time you need to make money!

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2. No One Wants To Be A Millionaire

…They just want to live a millionaire life.

What if you were told you could live a millionaire lifestyle at a mere fraction of the price. You could sip pina colada’s on the beach and still have enough money to vacation for as long as you want. Well, this is possible for you! All you have to do is free up your time and mobility.

Your goal doesn’t have to be ‘become a millionaire’. You just need to free up as much time as possible. While creating income from sources that aren’t tied to one specific place. The book teaches you that by outsourcing and automating processes, you are able to free up massive chunks of your time.

You might be saying to yourself “this is nonsense, it’s impossible to live a millionaire lifestyle”. Well, think about it this way. £1000 ($1350) may not seem like it will go very far. But how far would it go in other countries of the world?

With the rise of digital nomadism, it's easy to see how many people are doing this, and you can do it too! You just need to setup your life so that it works for you in this way instead of against you! 

In paradises like Thailand and Indonesia, you can live for as little as £20-30 a day, which is pretty cushy for the life you live! And also, pretty doable. All you need to learn is how to make that much money whilst working from anywhere in the world. 1000’s of people are already doing it. So why can’t you?

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3. Money Isn’t The Goal

If it’s not clear already, you should know that ‘making the most money’ isn’t the goal. You don’t need to make more than you need. The idea is to make enough money to fund the life that you want to live.

Tim Ferriss says that one of the worst types of people to be is the ‘living dead’. And you should avoid joining them at all costs. These are the people who spend money on things they don’t want, and spending time with people they don’t like so they can try to win the rat race.

Having money doesn’t make you happy. It’s not ‘about having or getting’ it’s about ‘doing and being’. When you can see this then you begin to see that money isn’t the goal but the feeling you get what you spend it on is. And remember that the amount of money you need to achieve these goals is considerably less than you think.

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4. Absolute Wealth vs Relative Wealth

The next big point in the book is absolute wealth and relative wealth.

You may think that John who earns £100,000 a year is more wealthy than Abby who earns £30,000 a year. But what if John had to work 70 hours per week and Abby only had to work 10. And what if John’s job was tied to one place whereas Abby’s job could be performed anywhere in the world. Then suddenly Abby seems a lot more wealthy.

And this isn’t even the half of it. This is an extreme example but what if John lived in a city where the average rent cost £2000 per month, and everything else he needed was priced in accordance.

But Abby moved to a city where rent was only £500 a month, and everything else was priced in accordance.

John’s money would get him nowhere. However, because Abby created a job where she could earn from anywhere in the world and moved to a place that’s considerably cheaper. Her money would be worth a lot more and she’d be in relative terms, more wealthy.

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5. The Importance Of Delegation And Automation

If you want to live this life, then it’s important you learn to do two things well, delegation and automation. Doing this is going to free up your time for more important things like having fun and thinking of new big ideas!

And with the rise of AI, globalisation, and increased education levels around the world, delegation and automation have never been easier!

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6. Learn To Be Effective Not Efficient

This is another mistake a lot of people often make. Tim Ferris says you need to learn to make the distinction between “doing things right” and “doing the right things”

The example he gives is that you can be the best door to door salesman, and be more efficient than anyone, and you’ll make sales.

However, if you wanted to be more effective, then you’d move away from door to door sales, and into a market where you get a lot more reach.

So whatever, you’re doing make sure that you’re being effective first, and then efficient.

This also ties into his thoughts about the 80/20 rule, where in most scenarios 20% of your work is going to give 80% of the results, so you should focus more on this and cut out the rest.

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7. What We Fear Doing Is What We Need To Do Most

Another great lesson from the four hour work week, and one that most of us know deep down, is that what we fear doing is what we need to do most. We see fears as indicators that we should avoid something, but in a lot of cases, they’re quite the opposite.

Your fears are the indication of the direction you should head in. Your dreams and goals are just behind them. Remember, all of life is uncertain, there’s no knowing what’s going to happen, so you might as well try to guide it into the direction that you want it to go!

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8. People Are Just As Insecure As You

This is a BIG lesson you should take from the book. Everyone is just as insecure as you are! Trust me. I started this blog when I was 24, and thought my insecurities would pass with time, now at 30, with a lot more success behind me, I’m still insecure in some areas.

And that’s okay. Everyone else is too! So whatever it is that you feel you need to do, don’t let your insecurities get in the way of your success. We’re all feeling the same way.

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9. Learn To Be A Quitter

This goes against a lot of advice people are often told, but learning to quit isn’t a bad trait, but a positive one. Remember this doesn’t mean QUIT everything.

In life and especially in business, some things are going to work for you and a lot of things aren’t. You need to learn how to identify these quickly, and learn whether it’s appropriate for you to keep moving forward, to take some time away and learn more, or to quit altogether.

Remember this is also the case if you’re not enjoying something anymore, too! Unfortunately, this skill can only come with time, and you must make a lot of mistakes to get the wisdom to spot the difference.

So start making these mistakes as soon as possible!

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10. If It’s Important, Don’t Put It Off

There are a lot of reviews about this book but I feel like this is one of the key points in the book that is often overlooked. And that is why I have chosen to include it in my 4 hour work week summary.

Part of joining the new rich is all about not putting off the things you want to do. Stop making pro and con lists and saying to yourself why it can’t be done. If something is important to you, then you should do it. Use it as motivation to create streams of money that will fund you!

The universe is NEVER going to line up for you. You need to learn to take the leap, and course correct as you go. I know it’s scary, but you can do this, you just need to believe in yourself, learn as you go and refuse to quit!

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A Conclusion Of The Four Hour Work Week!

If after reading this 4 Hour Work Week Summary you still aren’t sure if this right for you then I suggest you ask yourself the following questions.

What would you do if retirement was no longer an option? Would you still work where you are now? Knowing that is where you’re going to be when you die. Retirement is a worse case scenario. Don’t hedge your bets on that being the winning outcome of your life. Are you really willing to spend the best years of your life doing something you hate for a future that may not happen?

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The Power Of Habit Summary

The power of habit

If you’re like me, you may feel like some days you have an abundance of willpower, and on other days you can barely drag yourself out of bed. Have you ever wondered why this happens? And more importantly, have you ever wondered how you can change your day so every day is highly productive. If so, the power of habit summary you are about to read will address these issues. And not only that, it will give you an effective way of setting habits that override willpower.

Before we really get into the topic of how to set effective habits is important to know that your brain is always looking for a way to save energy. And the biggest way that you can do this is by creating a habit or routines. In fact, your brain is so good at saving energy that up to 40% of daily actions are habits.

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The Power of Habit Summary Points

What is a Habit?

Habits can be broken down into a three-part loop. This consists of an external cue, a routine, and a reward.

  • An external cue is something that happens in the environment, that causes your brain to decide which course of action it should take.
  • After this, your brain will start a routine that it is used to doing, in order to save energy. For example, when you wake up in the morning a cue might go to your brain, which sets a routine for you to go take a shower and brush your teeth.
  •  After this happens, you will normally get a feeling of reward or success. For example, in this case, the feeling of being clean and smelling fresh is the reward.

The more this is done the more resilient the habit becomes. It’s important to realize that some habits, good or bad, become so resilient, that even when you kick them there is always a higher chance of you relapsing. Therefore it is always important for you to stay vigilant with all of your habits. If you know there is a habit that you have a higher chance of relapsing over then you should set an action plan which will help you fight that urge and overcome the relapse before it gets out of hand.

If you already have a habit that you wish to change, fortunately, there is a routine you can follow which will allow you to break the routine and replace your negative habit with more positive habits. Coming up, is arguably the most important part of the power of habit summary you’re reading and that is: how do you change a habit?

Step 1 – Understand What You Crave From The Bad Habit

This is the first step in replacing a negative habit with a positive one. You need to  find out what rewards you get from your negative habit. For example when you smoke it is probably not the feeling of smoking that you enjoy, but instead the feeling of a nicotine rush. This is why patches and vapes are so popular when replacing cigarettes. Because rather than going cold turkey and losing the reward of a nicotine rush. Instead, you get to keep the nicotine rush and form a habit that is a bit more healthy.

What area of your life do you have a negative habit? For example, you might find yourself eating unhealthy food a lot. Perhaps this is because you find it comforting. Or perhaps it is because you like the taste of the unhealthy food.

These are just a couple of examples, which area of your life do you have a bad habit? And how can you replace the negative routine for a more positive one while still maintaining the same reward?

Step 2 – Substitute The Negative Habit With A Positive One

Now that you know the reason you engage in the negative habit, you need to begin substituting it for a positive one. I spoke briefly about how replacing a cigarette with a vape is taking a step towards a positive habit, But how else could you do that?

If you have the habit of eating junk food for the taste, then replace the action with eating an equally tasty healthy meal. If you find comfort in eating. Engage in a similarly comforting activity. But you have to understand the importance of replacing the negative habit. Not just trying to get rid of it. When you replace the habit but keep the reward you’re going to be well on your way.

Step 3 – Believe

Okay, so now you have an understanding of what’s causing your bad habit, the craving. And you’re also aware that you need to substitute the negative habit with a positive one while still receiving a reward. The next step in The Power of Habit Summary you’re reading is to BELIEVE that you can form a new more positive habit. If you don’t think belief is one of the important factors in creating a new habit or changing a negative one. Then just look at Alcoholics Anonymous. As Charles Duhigg says spirituality and God feature prominently in AA philosophy, but its not necessarily the religious component itself that helps people stay sober.” Therefore you don’t have to believe in God, you just need some form of belief. Maybe it’s belief in the system you are using. Belief in the fact that other people have done it and succeeded in the past. Or personally my favourite type of belief. And that is belief in yourself that you are capable to accomplish it.

 Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped

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Keystone Habits

A keystone habit is a habit that is used early on to provide a small win to help boost your belief in the habits you are going to form. For example if you wanted to go to the gym 5 times a week instead of focusing on your different gym workouts, what to eat, how often you should train for etc. You should focus on one keystone habit. Just showing up. By doing this you create a positive effect that overflows into the other areas of gym routine. Which in turn makes it more likely for you to stick to your new habits.

The Most Important Keystone Habit Of Them All

Out of all the keystone habits, there is one that is going to have a greater benefit than all the others. In any area of your life. And that one keystone habit is willpower. Because once you’ve cultivated willpower you can literally apply it to any area of your life with great result.

“But you said at the beginning of this article that habits can override willpower” I did say that and it’s true that you should always try to form habits to help you when your willpower fails. But at the same time you need to start by having the willpower to form those habits. And what better way than by making willpower a habit in itself?

The thing about will power is that it’s not something that is always there or always not there. It’s like a muscle. You can exhaust it if you spend too much time doing things that you don’t want to do. Or something that is incredibly tedious. And on the other end of the spectrum you can also improve it and make it stronger. Another way that will power will wane is when you are being forced to do something instead of doing it by choice.

I used to always tell myself I HAD to do stuff, even if I didn’t want too. And naturally this drained my will power and I wouldn’t get a lot of stuff done. Now, I always says I can do it but if it’s up to me whether I choose to or not. Doing this strengthens your willpower. Because you’ve given yourself the choice on whether you want to do something or not.

And Last But Not Least..

The last point in the power of habit summary is that if you really want to give your habit a good chance of being successful then you should sandwich it in between two already successful healthy habits. For example, I have a habit of getting out of bed the moment my alarm goes off and then straight afterwards having a shower. These are two positive habits. However, I recently sandwiched another positive habit in between the time I spent getting up and getting showering. Now, I do affirmations in the middle.

By doing this you are more likely to remember and engage with your positive habit!

Did you enjoy The Power Of Habit Summary?

I hope you enjoyed the power of habit summary I’ve written. Which habits are you going to change? There’s no point in learning something new without putting it into action. If you really want to make the most of this article and the power of habit summary you’ve just read, then I highly suggest thinking of one habit that you can change today.

And if you want to know more about habits, and how habits can affect the people around you and a more detailed guide on how to create habits then don’t forget to buy “The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business” and don’t forget to join the community for free!

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Good Personal Habits To Adopt In Your Life

I’ve talked before about the advantages of good habits and the way they can transform your life for the better. And for a full depth understanding, you should definitely check that out. But in short, the reason good personal habits are so powerful in your life is that once set, they take minimal willpower to execute. With that in mind, I want to share with you 10 good personal habits. Learn these habits and watch your life transform.

These good personal habits aren’t specific to any one aspect of your life. And if you learn all of them you’ll be amazed at how much your life will improve.

If you suffer from constant procrastination, lacking motivation, or a belief that you aren’t free or not going anywhere with your life. These habits are going to help you tremendously

10 Good Personal Habits For Your Life

Be Grateful (Especially If You’re Feeling Negative Emotions)

This is my favorite habit that I’ve adopted. I used to hate my job and be angry every time I turned up about the situation I was in. While I am actively working on improving my future, I just wasn’t happy with my current situation. Rather than dwell on this everytime I went to work I started to be grateful for my job. I started to think about what it provided me: friends, money, social interactions and pride that I was paying my own way. Consequently, while I’m still not in my ideal situation, I am grateful for my present circumstances, and these help me to live a happier life every day.

Schedule Your Day

I constantly felt like I never had enough time, or that I wasn’t doing enough with my days. And anyone that has this feeling knows how much it absolutely sucks. When you feel like you’re letting your time slip through your finger you panic and get overwhelmed. That’s why I recommend scheduling your day. Your schedule doesn’t need to be anything fancy. In fact here is the one that I use:

 

I laminated it and now at the end of every day, I schedule out a plan for the next day using a marker. It doesn’t mean that I have to follow a rigid schedule like a robot. But it does allow me to get a better idea of how productive my day can be. And more importantly how to use my time more efficiently. Click the link to download your own Daily Schedule!

 

Focus On One Goal At A Time

This can be a hard habit to start if you find yourself constantly trying to do a million things at once. But to put it simply it’s better to do one thing whole arsed than one hundred things half-arsed. In your life, you should have on major goal that you plan on accomplishing no matter what. And once you’ve brought this to fruition then you should move on to the next goal and then the next goal.

Because you’re not superman or woman, and you can’t have three or four massive goals because there’s just not enough time in the day. What I mean by this is that you shouldn’t be focusing on getting absolutely ripped or toned, getting the job promotion you want, building a house and learning to be a forex trader all at once (I don’t know anyone who actually does this). But instead, you should nail one thing, and then move onto the next and the next.

This does mean that you will need to prioritize what is most important to you. For example, my primary goal right now is to earn enough of an income online that I can quit my job and start chasing my passion. But someone who needs more stability may have the main goal of buying a house.

But whatever endeavor you choose to be worthy for you… stay resilient, consistent and never NEVER quit until you make it work for you. The journey may change but if you keep the destination the same you’ll reach it eventually!

Plan, Plan Again and Check Your Plans

The next habit goes hand in hand with scheduling your day and having one big goal. Plan. Plan the steps you need to take to reach your goals. And not only this plan for the obstacles that pop up. Remember ‘the obstacles aren’t in your way, the obstacles are the way.’

Once you’ve got a solid plan up and running start committing to it. But remember that plans rarely stay the same. Make sure you’re always reevaluating your plan and changing it when necessary. For me I personally like to go over my plan once a week, doing this helps me foresee any new developments or hiccups that might come up later down the road.

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Listen To Audiobooks

Most people tell you that you should read more books, and if you have the time then you should. But if you’re like me it can be hard to find the time to simply sit down and read a book. So what I have started to do is listen to an audiobook every time I’m: commuting to work, cooking dinner, chores, something mindless. By doing this I am utilizing those hours more effectively and the great part is you can get an audiobook every month with audible for only £6

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If you don’t know what book you should download first then I highly recommend ‘The Chimp Paradox’. No other book I have read or listened to has helped me understand my brains and emotions so much. I’ve written a book summary if you would like to know more!

The Pomodoro Technique

This habit is going to skyrocket your productivity. When you’re undertaking a massive task you should work for 20-25 minutes then have a 5-10 minute rest to let your mind recover. Doing this may seem counterproductive because it feels like you’re doing less work. But if you look at the quality of your work afterward it’s a lot higher than it would be if you mindlessly plowed through it.

Auto Suggestion

Your subconscious mind is a machine that needs programming. 95% of all your actions and thoughts come from your subconscious mind. That sounds pretty scary, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be. Because all you have to learn to do is control your subconscious mind.

Every day you tell yourself a story. It could be why you can’t do something, how you think people will react if you act in a certain way, or that things aren’t possible for you. But what happens if you change this what happens if you start to auto-suggest. This simply means purposefully repeat the same thought in your head until it sinks into your subconscious.

This one of the great good personal habits that you should definitely start to use every day. It takes virtually no effort you just need to think different thoughts and change your thought patterns. And doing this over time will create a monumental shift in the path your life is going!

Compare Yourself

..But only to your past self. The only competition you are in is competition with yourself. It’s so beneficial to compare yourself to who you were yesterday, a month ago or a year ago. If you can be 1% better than the person you were yesterday in 3 months you’re going to be 100% better!

Always compare the amount of effort you’re putting in every day and the results you’re getting in. If you can’t see yourself improving then you may need to replan and try again from a different angle.

Find ways to measure your success and then write them down. Use these results as your own personal best and then go and beat them, keep repeating this process.

Become A Self Motivator

You’re not going to have someone on the sidelines encouraging you every day. That’s why you need to become a self-motivator. What can you say to yourself to get pumped? A great place to start is with a morning routine that you can use every day that gets you ready to go beast mode and tackle the day.

S0me great ways to motivate yourself are by auto-suggestion, doing small tasks to pick up momentum and rewarding yourself for a job well done.

Become a person who only expects the best of themselves and then is your number one believer, pushing yourself every day to reach your goal. Outside motivation is temporary, but when you find a motivation or drive inside of you that comes from deep down, it’s like a tree rooted deep. You can keep absorbing nutrients from the vasts wells inside you.

Become A Great Listener

This is one of the staple good personal habits you hear so often, but I have to include it because of how important it is. To put it simply:

“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” – Dalai Lama XIV

And that’s why you should be a great listener. Where do you want to go in your life? And how do you think you’re going to get there? I’ll tell you exactly how. By learning. And the best way to learn is from other people who have already achieved what you wish to achieve. So stop trying to impress people by talking all the time and trying to be the center of attention. Instead, take a step back and listen to what is being said. Absorb all the information around you, and start using that knowledge to push you further in life.

Which Good Personal Habits Were Your Favourite?

All of these good personal habits are great. But which one really struck home with you? What one do you reckon will change your life? Try to start using them all in your daily life. Don’t do it all at once though. Take small bites until eventually they all just become a part of your natural routine. If you want to know some good personal habits you can use in the morning then you should follow this link. Otherwise, have a great day!

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Keep Consistent And You’ll Get What You Want

When you look throughout history at all of the successful people in life, who do you think are the ones that are most successful? It’s not the ones with amazing talent or skills. Or the ones that seem to have a ‘gift’ for something. While these may be a great prerequisite they’re not what causes success. It is the people who keep consistent, no matter what happens, who become successful.

If you don’t believe that is true then you should check out all of these successful people who stayed consistent no matter what! All of these people stayed consistent no matter what happened. They’re dogged determination kept them moving forward at all costs.

But those are other people’s lives. You might be telling yourself that they’ve been given something you haven’t been. Well, that’s simply not true.

You TOO Used To Keep Consistent In Your Life

There has been a time in your life where you had UNRELENTING consistency no matter what. You may have kept falling down again and again. But no matter what happened you’d get up one more time and give it another shot. When was this time? When you were learning to walk. That wasn’t a metaphor I was writing but an ACTUAL FACT about your life. (Unless you had the great misfortune of being born unable to walk).

Even so, imagine the constant effort it must have taken you to learn how to talk. As a baby, it was easy for you to keep consistency. To keep learning how to speak and later on how to write. So what’s stopping you now?

When you were learning these fundamentals in your life YOU didn’t have any extra talent, brain or gifts. And neither did anybody else. We ALL learned through consistent effort.

Even later on in life how many hours did you spend learning to ride a bike before it became second nature to you? If you quit just because you weren’t having fun would you be able to ride a bike today? No. But once again you were able to keep consistent. On the outside, nothing was changing. You probably fell off your bike again and again like me. I can still remember the constant pain I felt from bruises on my knees. But if you were like me and the majority of the population. You just kept going until what you saw inside your head became reality outside of your head!

How Can This Help You?

What I’m telling you is nothing new. You knew this already, emotionally. But it’s good to remind yourself because it often gets forgotten.

But yet when you come to some great undertaking you don’t want to do it. You worry about the amount of time and effort it will take. And what if after all of that time and effort you don’t end up successful?

Is there a time in your life when you kept trying at something and you just couldn’t quite hit the mark? Maybe this knocked your belief in yourself and warped your view of the world a little bit. But I want to tell you right now, you didn’t fail because you weren’t good enough, or because consistency doesn’t work. You failed because you STOPPED being consistent. You weren’t patient enough with yourself. If you carried on with whatever goal it is that you wanted to achieve no matter what. Do you think you’d be successful now? The chances are you would!

When you were a child you learned that stumbling and falling was a natural part of life. It didn’t bother you. But it was when you grew up that it started bothering you. Throw these negative beliefs out of the window. Because they’re only holding you back from the truth.

succuss isn't always about greatness. it's about consistency. consistent hard work leads to success. greatness will come.

You Can STILL Reach Your Dreams If You Keep Consistent

So now that you’ve remembered this, you are more than aware that whatever you want to achieve in your life is still possible! In fact, it’s almost impossible for you to fail! The law of averages gets stacked higher and higher in your favor every day you take consistent action towards your dreams. Until at last, nothing else is left for you EXCEPT succeeding.

Think of the goal you want to reach as if you were building a house. Every consistent task and action you take adds another brick to the house. Some bricks may be extremely heavy. Some bricks may take a lot of time to lay. But if you keep laying them consistently again and again eventually the house will be built. And your dream will be accomplished.

All that’s slowing you down is how much time you’re going to spend on building your dreams every day, and how big your dreams are! But rest assured that not only is it possible BUT probable if you keep taking consistent action every day!

What Is The Future Going To Hold?

I’ve started consistently going to the gym and I’m going to do this for 3 months. How much of an improvement am I going to see in 3 months? I have an ectomorphic (skinny) body. But you can guarantee if I go to the gym every day I’ll still be in better shape than someone with a mesomorphic (naturally muscular) body who never goes. This is because consistency is more important than natural talent. If I continuously write blog posts. My blog is going to be filled with FAR MORE value than the most talented blogger who never bothers to write.

Where are YOU going to be in the next 3 months if you take consistent action towards your goals every day? You could COMPLETELY change your life in that amount of time. And set it spiraling in a completely different direction. You could steer it in a direction you want it to go!

And the best part is the longer you keep consistent the better able you are to see how far you’ve come. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you haven’t seen a noticeable change in the direction you want. It’s because you haven’t been consistent long enough OR you’ve been consistently going in the wrong direction. Make sure that you’re following the right course and you keep consistently at it and your success is bound to follow. As long as you never quit…

Now it’s up to you. I hope you make it your mission to keep consistent in your own life!

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Personality Development And How It Can Help You

Have you heard the term ‘Personality Development’ before? And are you looking to find out what it’s all about? What if I said it was the study of changing your life…

What Is Personality Development?

The best way to look at personality development is the practice of improving your personality! Chipping away at all the negative aspects. And polishing up the best parts. For example, there are things that you’re naturally good at. So instead of focusing all your time on trying to improve everything you’re mediocre at (and only getting mediocre results), you should invest most of your time on the characteristics that you naturally excel at. And therefore get them to a level of excellence that can’t be reached by someone without your natural gifts!

However, whilst you should focus a lot of your time honing one or two of your best traits. It’s also important to replace or play down your negative traits.

I am an extremely laid back guy. Nothing really stresses me out and I don’t ever feel a sense of urgency. This is my best AND worst character trait. It’s great because I never worry or get stressed about life. BUT it’s bad because sometimes I don’t put in 100% of the effort I know I can and in the end, I sell myself short. So I know the most important way I can develop my personality for the future is to replace putting things off with taking action.

What do you think your biggest strengths and weaknesses are? And what can you do to improve upon what you have and replace or play down what you need to change?

I’m Not Saying You Shouldn’t Accept Yourself

It may look like I’m saying you aren’t good enough the way you are. And that I am not accepting myself. But it’s very contradictory. You should be in a mindset where you’re happy with who you are, but also looking forward to who you will become. Once you get into this mindset you will become unstoppable.

No matter how old you are you can start to develop your personality. Even if you’re 80+ it’s never too late.

Importance of Personality Development

Think about the people you know who went the furthest in life. You know the ones, they always seemed to have their life figured out. And knew exactly what they wanted from it. People tended to gravitate towards them, and no matter what line of work they were in they were always getting to a manager position.

They have got to this point because their personality is well rounded and developed. The people that stand out in life most are the ones are the intelligent ones. And that’s not just intelligence in the sense of knowledge. It’s the intelligence to be able to read people and situations, the intelligence to understand themselves. As well as the intelligence of understanding the rules of life and how to play properly.

All of this intelligence can be gathered from personality development.

Stages Of Personality Development

Your personality is developing all through your life. Just because your body stops growing at a certain point, it doesn’t mean your mind does. The amount of time your personality takes to develop is extremely fast in your early years of life but as time goes on, it takes longer and longer. These are a SHORT and not completely conclusive guide to how your personality develops. Do NOT take these as EXACTLY the way they are. This is just a rough guide to get your head around it.

Up to 18 Months

From Birth to 18 months is the time you will learn about trust or mistrust. If your carer is there for you all the time. And feed you and soothe you, then the chances are good that you will grow up developing trust. However, IF your carer doesn’t give you the attention you need in these first few months. Then you will develop a natural mistrust in people. Of course, this can be devastating to your social well being. This might cause lack of trust later in life. Or feelings that people are talking about you behind your back.

18 Months – 3 Years

This is the start of where your self-esteem will begin to develop. You will start to have control of your own body (Learning to eat and move occur in this phase as well as potty training). The most dangerous part of this phase once again is HOW your parents treat you in this phase. Especially when it comes to potty training. If your parents shame you or make you feel inadequate in this phase, then the chances of having good self-esteem in yourself are very LOW.

3-12 Years

These are the years where you gain a lot of your independence. You learn to play by yourself, dress, create friendship and walk to school by yourself, in the later years. And this is also the time when you begin to notice everybody is different. These are the years that are going to define whether you feel inferior, superior or equal to the people around you.

What groups you get put in at school may define how you view yourself.

12-18 Years

From 12-18 Years old you are figuring out who you are. This where you start to figure out a rough idea of what you want from your life. A lot of pressure can occur in this phase, from the person themselves. Or, unfortunately from the parents who may have a different plan for their child than what he or she wants.

If you’re reading this and you’re in THIS phase of your life. Be smart and make sure you follow your own judgment on what you want from life. Don’t be afraid to listen to advice from your parents and friends. But at the end of the day, this is YOUR life and you can live it the way you want too.

18-35 Years

This is the time where are looking for your success in life. Trying to fulfill the force inside you that makes you tick. This could be finding a partner and starting a family. Finding a job you love and working hard on it. Or creating your own path in life.

Whatever it is if you’re not always seeking where you truly belong the next phases won’t be as pleasant.

35-55 Years

If you don’t see your life as being worthy thus far, you may experience a mid-life crisis. The number one thing that is going to cause this to happen is if you haven’t been successful in the endeavor that TRULY sets your soul on fire. That’s why you see 50-year-old businessmen with all the money in the world, going off the deep end. Because while they were massively successful in business, it was unfortunately in a role that didn’t fulfill them.

55 Years – Death

These are the ‘wise’ years of your life. Hopefully, you have lived well up to this point and if you have you will feel a deep sense of integrity. If not you may feel a deep sense of despair.

If you’re at this point in your life and you do feel despair. It’s okay. This isn’t a bad thing. This is your consciousness literally screaming at you, WAKE UP! DO WHAT YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO DO!’

You may not have as much time as someone in their 20’s BUT you’re not dead yet. So now more than ever is the time to WAKE UP, shake your life up AND do what you’ve been put on this Earth to do.

A person who never made any mistakes never tried anything new

Personality Development Training

Fortunately, no matter what age you are at you can still change your personality. The younger you are the better. But people of ANY age can shift their personality. While there are countless ways to develop your personality, we’ll start with the fundamentals. The things you HAVE to do if you wish to see success.

Know yourself

Before you do anything else you must know yourself. What your strengths and weaknesses are what you do and don’t want from life. Any big personality flaws you have and what you TRULY excel at. And analyze all of this with excruciating precision. Ask for help from family and close friends on what they think your biggest strengths and weaknesses are. Do their words align with what you thought?

You’re going to have to be brutally honest with yourself. Try to distinguish whats real from what you thin is real. Remember your view of reality is different from how it truly is. So make sure you only deal in facts.

Introduce Newness Into Your Life

It doesn’t matter what the source is. Be it people, books, radio shows, movies, audiobooks. As long as it’s bringing great and NEW ideas into your life. If you never get new influences into your life, you’re never going to learn anything that can develop your personality and improve who you are. If you read 15 minutes of a book per day, that’ll be a book every 2 weeks. Think how many new ideas you could learn from 24 books a year.

The most helpful tool I use to always get great new ideas is Audible. Getting a new audiobook you can listen to every month on the go is the BEST way I know to improve the amount of knowledge you can pour into your own head.

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If you want to know some great books to listen to then I recommend: The Chimp Paradox, The Four Hour Work Week & How To Win Friends And Influence People.

Become a GREAT Listener

How many times have you heard this saying? Has it ever really sunk in how important it is? Why is being a great listener important to personality development? Well it’s because:

“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” – Dalai Lama

So how often do you see yourself being the talker in the conversation and not the listener? How do you expect to develop your personality when you’re always repeating the same information instead of learning something new?

Become a Positive Thinker

There’s an age-old proverb that has been said in 100’s of different ways by 100’s of different people. But the message is the same then as it is now. And just as true:

“What we think, we become”

Your thoughts are the base for everything you do. The thoughts you think turn into your actions and what you say. When you take positive actions and speak positively you’ll develop positive habits. And the more positive habits you have the more positive your life will become.

So start being more positive work on thinking positive thoughts and the rest will follow. Just like you can’t change the course of a river in one day the same is true here. But changing the course little by little every day will eventually get the river flowing in a completely different direction.

Remember it’s not what life does to you that will shape your outcome in life. What you’re going through hundreds maybe thousands of people have also gone through. It is your attitude and actions responding to the situation that will define your life.

Stay Consistent

This one piece of advice will change your life. What have you stayed consistent at no matter what? And how many things have you started and not finished? I believe consistency which I like to believe is your will to succeed is THE most important step to accomplishing ANYTHING great in your life.

Imagine if a consistent effort wasn’t put into the buildings and houses in your town? If those builders gave up halfway through or when things got a bit difficult. Your town would just be an assembly of bottoms floors and unfinished projects. Well, your life is the same thing. How many buildings in your life have you left unfinished?

Instead of trying to have 100 small unfinished houses. Aim to build one HUGE Skyscraper. That you stay consistent at building day after day.

The Rest Is Up To You!

Now you know the key fundamentals of personality development as well as some steps you can take, the choice on what you do with your life is yours. If you are truly serious about creating great change in your life then you should DEFINITELY research personality development a LOT more.

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Real Life Success Stories – Don’t Be Afraid To Fail

Don't be afraid to fail - real life success stories

It seems like the majority of people who fail at their dreams is too quick to give up. They stop stretching toward their goal and settle. Fate, luck, and talent don’t decide somebodies ability to succeed. Their ability to keep saying yes in the face of all odds and standing by their passion does. So don’t be afraid to fail! These real life success stories are a reminder that anything is possible for you. And all you have to do is keep persisting no matter what! These are the people who didn’t quit until they were successful. 

Real Life Success Stories

Jim Carrey

In Toronto, Canada a man was born into a lower-income family. And dropped out of school when he was 15. He became a janitor with the hopes of one day bringing laughter to the world. He got his first ever gig at a comedy club in Toronto, he stepped up on stage filled with nerves and fright for his big moment… and got booed off. A failure this hard would deter most people from going after their dreams but not Jim Carrey. In fact, he continued starring in comedy clubs around Toronto. And he started becoming better and funnier until he went back to the same bar that booed him out and won the audience over. Now he is a MASSIVELY successful comedian. 

It is better to risk starving to death than surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what's left?

Walt Disney

1920’s America, In a dysfunctional family where the children are running away from their father one young man, had a penchant for drawing. He started working for a newspaper where he got fired because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”. Undeterred he continued where it’s alleged he got rejected dozens more times.At times he is so poor that he had to eat dog food to afford his rent. Success finally came to him when he created the character “Oswald the Rabbit” however it is short-lived, he doesn’t trademark the character and his artists leave him to work for his distributor. Then Mickey Mouse is created and the rest is history. 

Walt Disney is one of the most famous names in the world! What would have happened if he gave up after his first failure? Don’t be afraid to fail… You could be the future Walt Disney, you just have to keep going no matter what.

All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them

Thomas Edison

If you were told by your teachers that you were “too stupid to learn” as well as being fired from your first two jobs for lack of productivity; it may look like you weren’t destined to do a lot with your life, from an outside perspective. That is exactly what happened to Thomas Edison. His failures did not end there though. Everyone remembers Thomas Edison for the lightbulb which he is famous for failing 1000 times, but he also had 1,093 different patents out for inventions, with only a handful being successful. Determination or ignorance Thomas Edison’s confidence in himself allowed him to bring the modern world alive. As well as becoming one of the worlds most successful inventors.

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

Abraham Lincoln

A president of the United States also had his fair share of failures. Abraham Lincoln’s list of failures is so long it’s a miracle he managed to keep trying until he found success. Before running for presidency he ran 2 businesses that failed. He then fell in love, only for his love to die too. This all happened before Abe turned 25. Shortly afterward he suffered a nervous breakdown. It’s still not over however as Abraham Lincoln also failed at running for state legislator, congress, senator and vice president before he became the President of the United States. If a man who had such a bad hand dealt to him in life could still become the president, what is stopping you right now from living your dreams?

Don’t be afraid to fail, compare your life to Abraham Lincoln! If he can succeed why can’t you? This should be one of your favorite real life success stories. Because if a man can go through all of this AND become the president of the United States. Then it shows anything is possible for us!

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.

Micheal Jordan

When you have a disappointment or setback in life, how do you react to it? Do you quit and go back to what you were doing before, or do you redouble your efforts and become more determined to win. If you do the latter you are like basketball all-star Michael Jordan. When Jordan was in school he was rejected from his sophomore varsity team and put on the junior team instead. While this was, in fact, a tactical move by his coaches who realized that time on the junior team would give Jordan more time to practice his skills, he saw it as a defeat and went home that very night to his room and cried.

In his eyes not being put on the sophomore team was the worst thing that could have happened to him. Instead of remaining what he thought was a loser, Michael Jordan practiced harder than ever. He’d train every day and when he got tired of training he’d remember how he felt the exact moment he’d been “rejected”. This gave him more and more motivation to keep going. Jordan knew that his limits were as much a product of his imagination as his fears. That is why he was able to do what he did.

Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.

So Don’t Be Afraid To Fail!

Which one of these real life success stories was your favorite? For me, it’s Abraham Lincolns! Now you have the choice what are you going to do? Are you going to chase your life and your dreams and become the best person you can? Or have these real life success stories left you unphased?

Maybe it’s time you started to build your life too!

The choice is yours! And remember don’t be afraid to fail. These men weren’t so why should you be?

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Success Formula You Need For Successful Living

Success formula for successful living

What if successful living wasn’t just left to chance… Imagine if there was a ‘success formula’ you could follow to guarantee you’re chances of coming out on top in life… There must be. How can so many people who have come from a poor background go on to become majorly successful?

Furthermore, what’s stopping you from successful living?

Because if other people can do it that means there’s a set of actions you can follow to gain the same results. And while my success hasn’t come the whole way around yet. I KNOW it’s coming. And not only that, I also know the success formula you can use to achieve triumph as well!

The Success Formula

First of all, what is it that you want to do? How much do you know about your task at hand? Because the most important step to undertake before any great task is to know as much as you can!

Learn the facts

Don’t rush head first into a task before you know all the facts. You wouldn’t just rush into a marriage with no idea about the person you’re going to marry. So why rush into success if you have no idea how you’re going to do it OR more importantly if it’s really you’re calling.

I’m a culprit of getting excited and jumping into a task before I know all the facts. And whilst sometimes it has worked out great for me. Most of the time you end up losing money and time you could have invested better somewhere else. Make sure before anything else that whatever great task it is you wish to complete, you know it’s something you want to achieve and something you CAN achieve.

So, you know this is something you can AND want to accomplish… Now what?

Commit

If you truly desire successful living then you need to commit to it! Commitment is easy when you’re motivated and things are going well for you. But do you still want it when the chips are down and it’s all going wrong? When it would be easier to just throw in the towel and go back to your old life? Is this something you can commit to when motivation has long left you?

You need to be able to wake up in the morning and trudge through all the rubbish to achieve your dream. The most important key to success is your commitment. Your ability to show up day after day. You’ve heard this advice before, probably countless times. But have you ever really taken it on board?

I used to hear it and then say I would commit, and I would for a week and then quit. But when the switch flips in your head and you can say to yourself with all honesty ‘I am going to keep working at my success or die trying,’ then your success will come.

Visualise Your Goal

How can you commit if you can’t see your goal? Get in the habit of visualizing your goal. The clearer and more real it becomes to you, the more you can commit to it because you can almost feel it on your fingertips! When you have a free moment think about what it’s going to be like when you’ve achieved success, how are you going to feel? What is your life going to be like?

Chuck all nonessentials overboard

Imagine running with a backpack full of bricks. Or chains wrapped around your legs. They’re going to slow you down and more importantly their not needed for you to run better. These chains are all the non-essentials in your life. If you want to know the formula for success cut out what you don’t need. Get rid of TV and Facebook, replace them with audiobooks and affirmations. Instead of playing your PS4 get a hobby that relates to your success. The non-essentials are only going to slow you down so CUT THEM OUT.

Water your seeds

With all your nonessentials gone you can start to water your seeds. What I mean by this is that your life is a patch of dirt at first. And the more activities you work on, the more ‘seeds’ you plant in the dirt. Your time and energy become sunlight and water. And with enough sunlight and water, you’ll see your plants flourish. That once dry and boring patch of dirt can become a whole garden of flowers and plants. However, make sure you’re planting the right seeds. If you don’t watch your actions you could plant weed seeds or non-essentials.

And remember the fewer seeds you plant the more water and sunlight you can give to the few you choose. Helping them grow tall and strong.

Stay positive and persevere

This is the step of the success formula that rounds up all the other ones. If you want your years spent well on successful living you need to keep a positive mental attitude and keep persevering at all times. It’s perseverance with positivity that’s going to the be the extra push you need every day. To just complete a few more of your tasks, whether it be one more sales call, one more push up, or one more blog post. All those little extras will add up and over time create a massive shift in your life.

Small constant daily progress will transform you from unskilled to skilled, to a highly skilled expert

Things To Remember

Talent isn’t enough

Talent is just unused potential, just because you’re talented doesn’t mean you’re going to succeed. You need to work on your talent every day and hone it. Only then will you begin to tap into how great and extraordinary your life can truly be.

So remember it’s not about being talented. You can be untalented and still be tremendously successful you just need to put in the work day in and day out.

You’re not going to succeed overnight

To quote Jim Rohn:

“Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don’t fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgement, repeated every day.”

And the same is true for success. It may seem like one cataclysmic event that changes your life when success happens. But the success truly came from the actions and time you spent working towards that success in the past. One wave doesn’t erode a rock but hundreds do. And the same is true with your actions.

Value Your Time

One of the best books that helped me value my time was Seneca, On the Shortness of Life. A quote that really resonates with me is

“It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much. … The life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully.”

Seneca summed it up perfectly. We have enough time to accomplish everything we want to. But we squander it so needlessly on things that aren’t important. So start to value your time more. Because one day you’re going to be old. And how are you going to feel if you squandered all your time away?

Are You Going To Make A Successful Living?

You know the success formula now. It’s up to you to choose whether you’re going to make a success of living or not. You can make great changes today that are going to steer your life in a completely different course that could ultimately turn your whole world around.  And remember you deserve a successful living, and now you can have it with this success formula!

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Alpha Male Body Language Signs

Alpha male body language signs

Are you wondering why people aren’t responding to you the way you’d like too? Are you the joke of the group? Do the girls you want to talk to ignore you? Maybe the pennies dropped in your head and you’re beginning to understand the importance of alpha male body language signs!

Why Alpha Male Body Language Signs Are So Important

Would you believe me if I told you that the majority of things you say don’t matter? And that, in fact, the WAY you say things, as well as the WAY you act, is far more important than what’s being said? Well, some estimate that over 60% of your communication with others is body language. And vocal tones are also more important than what is being said. Crazy to think that you could be spending so much time worrying about what to say when you should be worrying about how to say it.

Still, underestimate the importance of body language?

Well just think about this. You ever met somebody and from the get-go, you just didn’t like them. Maybe it was someone who was acting slimy around you or a bit shift. Either way, they weren’t going to be your friend and you were never going to trust them. Well, you get that instinctual reaction because you’re subconsciously read their body language and something just isn’t adding up. And this all happens before people even speak to you!

This instinctual reaction may occur about you when people first meet you. They could instinctively feel that you are shy and lacking confidence. Luckily it is simple to change your body language to appear more confident when meeting new people. However be warned, you can fake it in the beginning but when people really start to get to know you, if you haven’t been working on your internal confidence. They’ll see through your outer alpha male body language signs.

So what can you do to appear more confident?

Alpha Male Body Language Signs

There are so many different areas of your body that you can work on. Just pick the ones you like and start incorporating them into your daily life. I’ll start with my favorite and the one that I found the most helpful when I used to be shy.

Taking up space

Next time you’re sitting down at a bar or pub with your friends. Take up more space than usual. Spread your arms over the backrest and keep your legs open. Your throat, crotch, and stomach are your ‘soft’ vulnerable areas. In nature exposing them shows you are relaxed and don’t feel threatened. In society, it shows you feel at ease and comfortable around other people.

How to implement: Next time you’re sitting down with friends, take up more space. If you get the bus or public transport sit with a wider leg stance. When you’re waiting at the bar spread your hands apart on the top taking up more space (if it’s not busy). Make sure you always remain respectful to others. Don’t take up more space by cramping someone into a corner.

Keep Your Body Open

Make sure you NEVER hold a drink or phone in front of your body. Think about how you look when you’re sat on your phone. Hunched over, arms in, head down. These are classic signs of submission and as previously stated you are taking up a little amount of space, which is also another way to show your lack confidence. So next time you’re around people keeps your posture open.

How to implement: Keep your legs in a wide stance and rest your phone on one leg. While you can still go on your phone, you also keep your soft parts exposed. Also try to rest your spare arm over the armrest or the back of your chair, to open yourself up more.

Hold Eye Contact

One of the classic alpha male body language signs, make a habit of holding eye contact with people. The eyes are the windows to the soul and a lack of eye contact shows a lack of self-confidence. Also, choose what you let your eyes rest on. When I used to be shy I didn’t even want to look at certain objects in case people saw.

How to implement: Next time you’re walking down the street hold eye contact for 2-3 seconds with everybody you come across. Get in the habit of doing this all the time and eventually it will become second nature to you.

Always Keep Your Eyes Level

Just like you should hold eye contact, you should also keep your eyes level at all time. As a rule of thumb, you should keep your eyes where they feel most uncomfortable in the beginning. If you point your eyes to low you come across as lacking confidence and shy. But if you point them too high, you may come across as weird or noticeable that you’re avoiding eye contact.

How to implement:  The best place I learned to do this was whilst in waiting rooms. Even with all the other people around, don’t be afraid to just stare straight in front of you when you aren’t focusing on anything. Obviously, if something takes your interest follow the step above and rest your eyes on it. But when you’re just relaxing to keep them pointed firmly forward.

Take Wide Strides

If you see somebody scurrying around, what’s your instinct of them? If they don’t appear shifty or up to no good. You may just think they’re odd or strange. This is how people are going to view you if you don’t change your steps. Make it habit of taking bigger more deliberate steps. Walk slower but with purpose.

How to implement: You can practice this ANYTIME you are walking. Make a habit of walking deliberately slow if you’re used to rushing around. envision a lion in the savannah. It’s the king of the jungle. It doesn’t rush around. It knows what it needs to do and it’s in no hurry. That’s what you need to be like.

Talk Slow, Loud & Don’t Use Filler Words

One of the most common symptoms people have when they’re nervous is they talk too fast and/or too quiet, which often gives the impression of mumbling. Obviously, this can be catastrophic in conversation and can ruin your first impression with new people.

Tip to implement: The next time you’re talking make sure you’re talking slower and STOP going ermm, errr, ‘like.’ When you’re talking to people, be confident in what you are saying. It’s important other people can wait to listen to you.

Stand Up Straight

Out of all the alpha male body language signs that you can give off, this is the ULTIMATE one. This is the classic that everybody knows but how many people practice? We get taught this from the moment we learn to walk. How many times have you heard ‘stand up straight” or “keep your back straight.” And there’s a reason. Because it is the ultimate sign of confidence. That you are standing up brave and strong to the world and saying “I can handle anything you throw at me.”

Tip to implement: When you’re walking push your shoulders back slightly. This will push your chest out and make you seem more confident. Keep your head high and stomach tucked in. When you’re walking imagine you’re being pulled up by the very center of your head. If you have to stand up against a wall for 2 minutes every day. But just learn to stand up straight!

Keep movement minimal

When you’re standing still, stand still. Don’t fidget with your hands and face. Stop biting your nails or picking at your fingers. Just stand still. What do you see when you think of a nervous person. Chances are they fidget a lot. Do you want to be someone who fidgets a lot? Or someone who has control of themselves in any situation and keeps their body movements deliberate at all times.

Tip to implement: Become more mindful. Be aware of your body movements all the time and over the span of a few weeks, you will be able to notice when you are fidgeting and then stop. If you feel like you can’t stop fidgeting just put your hands in one place and leave them there. Put them on your hips and KEEP THEM THERE. Standing still is one of the alpha male body language signs that will have the biggest impact on other people’s impressions of you.

Keep Your Feet Apart

When you’re standing still keep your feet planted shoulder width/or a little bit further apart. This gives the impression that you are stable and solid. As well as allowing you to take up more space and appear more confident. If you keep your feet apart you will look AND feel more confident.

Tip to implement: Every time you stop walking be aware of how your feet rest. If you notice them too close together just shift your weight and spread them out! This one is more of a habit you need to get into, rather than an action that takes a lot of willpower to implement. So there’s NO excuse not to do it!

Use Engaged Body Language

Engaged body language is when you speak with your whole body not just your voice when you’re talking. You might illustrate a point with your hand or use your arms to motion and describe. Either way engaging your WHOLE body is one of the great alpha male body language signs you can start to use in everyday life. When you used engaged body language you are literally saying: “I’m not afraid to draw attention to myself, because what I’m saying is worth hearing.”

Tip to implement: Think about situations you can use your whole body to describe things. If you’re describing how big something is try gesturing with your arms. If you’re describing how minuscule, pinch your fingers together and squint your eyes. Watch confident people in real life or on YouTube and see how they interact with people. A great person to emulate is Will Smith.

Handshake

One of the alpha male body language signs that truly separates the men from the boys. What sort of handshake are you giving out? Do you give a firm grasp? Or sadly do you give the sloppy ‘wet fish’ handshake. In an important meeting, your handshake is what’s going to be your first impression. Do you want to give off the vibe of someone who is confident and strong? Or is it going to be someone who doesn’t even have the strength to clench their fist?

Tips to implement: Practice your handshake! Just practice it with someone. If you’re practicing for a meeting make sure you use a firm grip and give a few good pumps. If it’s greeting an old friend you should definitely grab their forearm as well! This will signal enthusiasm and warmth to the other person.

Make Sure You’re Looking The Part

There’s NO point following all of these alpha male body language signs if your confidence is going to be knocked from not looking the part. Start to take pride in your appearance! When you’re looking good you’ll be feeling good, and when you’re feeling good you’ll be acting good!

Tips to implement: Start wearing clothes that are going to make you stand out in public. When I lacked confident I didn’t wear clothes I wanted to wear, but clothes that I thought would make me go unnoticed from other people. That is the WRONG way to live. You were born to stand out. So wear the clothes YOU want to wear. Do your hair how YOU want to do it. And you’ll feel much much more confident.

Implementing The Alpha Male Body Language Signs

Now you know the signs it’s up to you to start implementing them. You don’t need to go through them all at once. but start adding more and more into your everyday routine until you are looking AND more importantly feeling like an alpha male. If you’d like to check out my story on how changing my body language helped me overcome my shyness then go here. If you want to know why body language is so important then you should read these quotes.

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The Chimp Paradox Summary

The Self-development niche is far becoming a very saturated niche. With hundreds of authors, books, ebooks, videos, and blogs out there it can be hard to know what is going to help you and what is a waste of time. The Chimp Paradox summary I’m about to write will potentially help you change your life. If procrastination, fear, laziness or anxiety are holding you back, then you NEED to keep reading.

What Is The Chimp Paradox About?

The premise of The Chimp Paradox is that there are two separate entities in your head. A Chimp and a Human. The chimp is there to help you survive whilst the human is there to help you thrive. However, there are TWO problems:

  1. The chimp’s only goal is to keep you and your genes going, it is suited for survival in the wild.
  2. The BIGGER PROBLEM… We no longer live in the wild.

The book can help you thrive in a human society by teaching you EFFECTIVE steps you can take to keep your chimp under control.

If you struggle with self-confidence issues, lack of self-control, procrastination, over-eating, laziness. Literally, ANY negative trait that a human can have. Then this book can help you.

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How Do I Read So Many Books?

If you’re like me you want to learn as much information as you can. However trying to read book after book is too time consuming. You should be listening to them instead! With audible you can listen to books when you’re commuting, at the gym, cooking dinner, in the bath. It’s a MUCH MORE time effective way for you to read MORE books. If you’re interested in Audible then I HIGHLY recommend getting the 30 day free trial!

How Can The Chimp Paradox Help You?

Throughout the book, there are a number of different coping strategies that you can use to calm your chimp and let the human take over. I want The Chimp Paradox summary you’re reading to be as informative as possible so you can start making changes in your life right now. However, to really feel the true effects, I highly suggest buying The Chimp Paradox. It is an Amazon best seller and well worth the read. But if you’re not sure about the book and want to know some of the biggest changes you can make, then the first thing you should learn to do is:

Take Control Of Your Chimp

Ever had one of those thoughts that you just can’t get out of your head? For me, I used to always worry that I was about to die. For other people, it might be that their spouse is cheating on them. Or how bad they want to eat a Krispy Kreme. No matter how hard you try you just can’t seem to stop the thought going on and on in your head.

Well, there are two ways you can fix it. You can either distract the chimp or box it. The computer is basically your habits and if you programme it properly, you’ll see VAST improvements in your life. When you set your computer right. It will bypass what the chimp thinks and go straight into automatic mode. And the good news is it is relatively easy to change your habits.

You Are Not Your Feelings

One of THE most important things that you can learn from this book, and more importantly FOR LIFE, is that you are not your feelings. Your feelings are there to give you an example of how you COULD react but they don’t mean you HAVE to act in that way. This needs repeating. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACT ON YOUR FEELINGS.

When this sinks in your life will change. When you read this book and understand that your feelings are JUST suggestions for how you should act in a situation and not what you have to do. You’ll become simply unstoppable. If you take one thing from The Chimp Paradox summary it should be HOW important this piece of information is.

Distracting The Chimp

One way to control your chimp is to distract it. If you’re constantly thinking about food you can distract yourself by giving your chimp an important task to do. For example, you could plan the rest of your day, or think about what you’re going to do for a workout later.

Boxing The Chimp

If your chimp is frightened, angry or sad you may need to box the. You do this by first, letting it say whatever it needs to say. For as long as it needs to say it. After a while, it will grow tired and then you can box it. When the chimp is tired it won’t be able to fight against the humans logic and therefore you can get it under control.

The person that you want to be is the person that you really are

How Else Can You Be Helped

Goal Setting

The Chimp Paradox summary wouldn’t be complete without talking about my FAVOURITE part of the book, and the part most people really need to understand. And that is accepting disappointment when you don’t achieve your goals. I’ve spoken before about How to Set Goals Effectively. But what happens when you don’t quite make your goal?

There’s a way you can avoid disappointment. And that’s by setting a goal that isn’t controlled by external factors. For example, you could set a goal of getting a job, but there’s no guarantee you’re going to get it. However, if you change your goals too: ‘Reading up on the Job’, ‘Learning interview techniques’ and ‘How to act the part.’ If you don’t get the job you can still be happy. Because you achieved your goals and maximised your chance of getting the job. How can you apply this in your own life?

Dealing with social situations

Ever feel like you HAVE to please everyone? It can be exhausting doing this and in the long run, damaging to your dreams and health. This happens because your chimp and human are struggling with miscommunication. As a human, you value other people and know for society to thrive you need to get along with people. The chimp see’s this with having to get along with EVERYBODY. Even if it’s destructive.

To control your chimp in social situations BEFOREHAND is the key here. Set up rules for what you’re willing to do and let your chimp know that it should not take any other tasks on board. Then when someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do. Your chimp doesn’t need to worry about saying ‘no.’ Because you’ve already established some boundaries and decided what is acceptable to you.

Tip: If you often say yes to people without thinking. Instead of saying ‘no’ outright. Tell them you’ll get back to them. Then that gives them the message that you might not be able to.

The Chimp Paradox summary – Should You Buy?

If you want to see REAL lasting improvement in your life then this book is definitely for you. If you’re looking for a quick fix to all your problems then this book isn’t for you (and good luck finding that). I could not rate this book highly enough.

It is a LITERAL game changer in your life, and you’ll be absolutely mad if you don’t consider buying it. That being said if you’re truly happy with your life and feel like you can’t improve yourself in any way then you should just give it a miss.

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How To Win Friends And Influence People Summary

How to Win Friends And Influence People is the Granddaddy of self-development books. Written by Dale Carnegie and published in 1936, it is undoubted, that this book has touched countless lives. And changed them for the better. Also, it has personally helped me change my interactions with everybody I meet. As a result, I have noticed a tremendous difference in the way people react to me. As well as getting more out of life. And after reading this How to Win Friends And Influence People summary

Who Is This Book PERFECT For?

Do you feel socially awkward and horrendous in social situations? Do you get your foot stuck in your mouth? And always know when to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time?

Or maybe you’re someone who needs to get an advantage over your competition? After all, it’s not what you know but who you know. And if you can just get the right contacts in the right places, you know you can take your career to the next level.

Either way, what the book teaches you and the few tips you are going to learn here, are going to change the way you interact with people from now on.

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How To Win Friends And Influence People Summary

Why Has This Book Been So Successful?

The number one reason ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ Has become so successful is because Dale Carnegie is a master of telling stories to get his point across. Through examples of different people in entirely different situations Dale Carnegie, gives great, true to life examples of how you can influence people using the points made in the book. While I am not sure whether the scenarios in How to Win Friends and Influence People are as true as they claim. The underlying message from each resounds deeply in your mind, every time you read them. In this How to Win Friends and Influence People summary you will find out a couple of the more important ones.

And more importantly, the lessons learned in the book are DOABLE. You’re not going to have to climb some metaphorical mountain to practice them in your daily life. They are all easily implemented and can be started TODAY.

Underlying Points

While I could talk about every point in this How to Win Friends and Influence People Summary, and you’d learn a lot. The real value of the book comes from the underlying points. The parts you have to think about and dissect in your head. While these points alone won’t be as effective if you don’t read the rest of the book they can still make a dramatic difference in your life.

Negotiation

How many times do you feel like you’re in a situation where one person can’t win unless the other loses? These situations may be most noticeable at work or your home life. if you’ve ever wanted to do something but been told that you must do something else. This is a win-lose situation. Likewise, if you do something someone else doesn’t want you to do that’s also a win-lose situation. However what if you came up with a solution where both parties could come out on top.

For example, if you’re at work and your boss wants you to cover a shift, but you don’t want to work any more hours. You could offer to cover that shift today, in exchange for additional time off the week after.

Or maybe there’s a chore at home you really don’t want to do. Instead of making someone else doing it or just ignoring it. Why don’t you offer to do something different in exchange for someone to take your task off your hands?

Negotiation is a great way to influence people, because not only are you giving them a scenario they are happy with, you also show them that you will be level-headed and reasonable in other situations in the future.

Lose Your Pride

Now, this was always a particularly difficult one for me. And you may be wondering why you’d want to do that. But have you ever been in a situation where somebody thinks they have ‘won’ but the end result has ended up in you getting what you want? Even if they don’t know about it?

THEN LOSE YOUR PRIDE.

Just let the other person think that they’ve won. The only damage you get is the damage to your ego and the benefits you could reap are EXACTLY what you might want.

People Aren’t Robots

Pretty obvious on the surface. But you can often forget that most people are full of prejudices and emotions. And it’s important to not act in the way you think. For example. If you work in the service industry. You sorta get used to thinking every customer is an impatient, dim, human being. So it comes as a surprise when they’re nice and even supportive of you. You can guarantee when a customer acts like that, they get much better service.

So start thinking about areas in your life where you can go against the prejudices people have against you. And in turn, they will reward you with better treatment.

How to Win Friends And Influence People Summary of Tricks You Can Use!

If you’re reading this How to Win Friends And Influence People Summary, then you’re probably here because you want to know some of the tricks you can use RIGHT NOW to start changing the way people interact with you. Before you leave I want you to know a mere three of the many simple tips in the book that will change peoples behavior towards you.

Talk To Them By Name

‘A person’s name is the sweetest thing to them.’ Next time you’re talking to somebody make sure to, find out their name, remember it and call them by it. Have you ever told somebody your name and they start calling you by it instantly?

Then you know that feeling of warmth you get towards them. While it’s important not to place your self-esteem with people you’ve just met. You can’t HELP but feel valued by someone who remembers your name and makes an effort to say it in conversation.

If you feel like this when people say your name, they’re going to feel the same when people say yours. Start bringing their name into the conversation and then watch the smile on their face.

Smile

On the subject of smiles make sure you flash people a genuine smile. A true smile is when you smile with your eyes. When you smile let your eyes crinkle up as well as showing them your teeth. They won’t be able to help but reciprocate. And feel good inside as well.

Tip: When smiling at someone don’t smile straight away. Allow a couple of seconds before you do, this will give them the feeling that your smile is ‘reserved’ for them and make them feel even more special. Just make sure they don’t see you doing it to other people.

Be A Good Listener

A person’s favorite conversation is themselves. If you want to be a great conversationalist the key isn’t being a great speaker. But in being a great listener. What are the best conversations you’ve ever had? And is there someone, in particular, you like having a conversation with? Chances are in the conversations you are doing the majority of the talking.

Now think about the flip side. Is there someone you can’t stand to talk to? They just drone on and on and you feel like you can’t get away? Then you know the importance of being a good listener!

So Is It Worth Buying?

All the information above is just a small snippet of what you will read about in the book. I haven’t even begun to cover the ways in which you can win people to your way of thinking, how to be a leader, or how to handle annoyed and disgruntled people in an effective way. If you want to find out how to do ALL of that then you should definitely buy How to Win Friends and Influence People. I hope you found this How to Win Friends and Influence People Summary helpful.

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