What is the separating factor between someone who lives a happy life and someone who doesn’t? I believe it is their attitude. If you carry on reading you will learn how to choose your attitude towards life AND how this will impact you positively. But first…
To Choose Your Attitude Towards Life Is The Only REAL Choice You Have
The number one reason that your attitude towards life is SO important is that it’s the ONLY thing you truly get to choose. As much as we’d like to wish, our circumstances are not in our control. Every day there are a lot of external circumstances that are beyond your control. You could miss a bus that came early, and be late for work. Or your favorite food might not be at the supermarket. God forbid, you could even be in a life-changing accident. And none of these things are in your control. The ONLY thing you can control in that situation is how you react to it.
As Viktor Frankl says:
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
And how true is that? You can have EVERYTHING in this world taken from you EXCEPT how you’re going to act if that happened to you. Maybe you’re telling yourself that’s ridiculous. If that happened to anyone they wouldn’t be able to go on living. Well, Viktor Frankl, the man who came up with that amazing quote is a Holocaust survivor. He DID have everything taken away from him and remained happy.
Have you ever heard of a man named W Mitchell? If you haven’t you should definitely check him out. He was completely set on fire AND survived a plane crash. Unfortunately, he ended up being horribly disfigured and lost the use of his legs. But how do you think he reacted to this situation? While a lot of people at this point would give up on life, W Mitchell didn’t. In fact, he’s become an amazing motivational speaker…
Not to mention the many successful people who had to go through immense hardships in their own lives!
Now maybe your troubles don’t seem so bad
“Attitude More Than Aptitude Determines Altitude”
Have you ever heard this saying before? And if so what do you think about it? I personally love it because it’s so true. No matter how much talent or skill somebody has, it doesn’t mean diddly squat if they don’t spend their time improving it. If they don’t have the right attitude then they’re skill is never going to matter.
However, on the flipside, someone who’s lacking in aptitude can easily make up for it with attitude. Determination, grit, and resilience are far more valuable in the long run than any amount of natural skill or talent.
So don’t feel like your life’s not fair because you’re not apt at anything. Find something that you enjoy doing get the right attitude, and pour your hours into it. You’ll be amazed at how much talent begins to be uncovered. And how high you can go.
Has Someone You Know Got A Negative Attitude
If you TRULY want to know why it’s important to choose your attitude towards life, then simply look at the people around you. Is there someone you might know that’s always in a bad mood. There’s always something going wrong in their life. Always something to complain about?
Their negative attitude is attracting negativity into their life. I don’t mean this in the law of attraction kind of way. I mean this literally. If you have a bad attitude you’re always looking for the negatives in your life. And when you’re doing this what do you think you’re going to find…
Now, how many people do you know with a really great attitude? No matter what happens they just keep on smiling. Maybe you think they’re naive but the truth is, unconsciously or consciously they’ve made a decision to only focus on the positives in their lives. And in doing so they will see more positives.
So just like them choose your attitude. Choose to only focus on the positives and watch how many positives will start to show up for you!
What Happens When You Choose A Positive Attitude?
When you have a positive attitude you’ll find that you’ll be able to push a little bit more every day. Whether it’s one more rep at the gym, one more hour at work, one more whatever, with a positive attitude you’ll be able to find the reason to keep going. And the truth is that success isn’t one big action. When you choose your attitude you’re saying today we’ll be a success. And enough successful days makes a successful month, then a successful year AND eventually a successful life.
What Happens When You Choose A Negative Attitude?
The bottom line is this, when you choose a negative attitude you will live an unhappy and depressing life. The world is going to beat on you, again and again, that’s how life is for everyone. And if you go round with a terrible attitude it’s only going to be worse for you. Your poor attitude will show in all areas of your life. From the way you conduct yourself to the way, you hold yourself. Maintaining a negative attitude for long enough will ensure you’ll never get what it is you desire. Because you can only focus on the negative things pulling you away from it. Instead of the positives pushing you towards it.
How To Choose Your Attitude Toward Life
Choose Your Attitude The Moment You Wake Up
I’ve talked before about the importance of a morning routine. And one of the most important things you can do when you wake up is taking the time to choose your attitude. The first thing you should do when you open your eyes is to decide that you are going to have a successful and productive day. This choice alone will get your subconscious mind working towards making it happen!
Some good thoughts to have are:
“I am excited to see what happens today!”
“I am going to give this day my very best, so that I may rest my head with deep satisfaction tonight.”
“Opportunities are everywhere.”
“I am here to do great things”
Remember Your Past Successes
Do you remember the feeling you get where you had a great win? Where something you really wanted came into your life. Recall that feeling and make it as real. Because in your subconscious it will be real. Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between reality and your imagination, use this to your advantage.
Start really envisioning your past wins and the future successes you want to happen. How can you have a negative attitude when you know you’ve been, and are going to positive places?
Expect Your Attitude To Lull
No one all of the time ever feels on top of the world. No matter how positive you are, at some points in your life, you’re going to feel negative. When this happens make sure you have something in place to boost your attitude again. For me, it’s motivational and inspirational videos. But for you, it could be completely different. Maybe it’s a song you love or your favorite quote. Be sure to have it ready, whatever it is.
Check Up On Yourself
Make sure you take the time throughout the day to check in on your attitude. Has your attitude been great up until this point? Or have you been letting negative thoughts run your day? If you do find this happening make sure you follow the step above and get yourself back into a positive attitude.
If you’re having trouble remembering to do this, put a reminder or alarm on your phone a few times throughout the day which will remind you to shift your attitude to a more positive one!
Write Down Your New Plan
Thinking is great, but writing down is better. I don’t know why but there’s something about bringing what you want into this world, even if it’s on paper. That really gets you going. I don’t know if it’s because you feel more committed to yourself or because you can see that it’s ‘more real’ but if you write down your commitment to having a positive attitude, and put it somewhere you can see it. You’ll be amazed at the difference it will make in your life!
Remember What You Are Grateful For
What do you have in your life that you are grateful for? When you remember everything that’s going on it’s hard for you not to be grateful! You could be working at a job you hate and think negative about it. OR you could see that while you don’t like your job. At least you have the luxury of being able to get a job, there are many people in the world that physically can’t work for whatever reason.
Be grateful that you woke up this morning. Remember life isn’t guaranteed. You should be happy you’re alive. In fact, you should be happy you’ve even been born. The chances of your birth are 1 in a trillion. Yet here you are! You were the one that made it.
When you start looking you’ll find hundreds of reasons to be grateful in your life.
There are some situations that are going to happen that is just going to affect your attitude. When you see these problems on the horizon plan ahead. Think of your song or quote that’s going to help you overcome this bump. If you have to reward yourself for this negative situation, to get yourself back on track.
The most important thing to do is not wallow! Once it’s happened move on from it. You should never let one negative minute of your day affect the rest of your day in a negative way!
Like I said before, you don’t get to decide what’s going to happen, you only get to choose your attitude in any situation.
Your Attitude Towards Life Is Your Choice
So, whether you want to spend the rest of your day in happiness or misery is up to you. It may be hard but at the end of the day, no one can control your thoughts but you, so start taking the time to bring positive thoughts into your mind, and slowly over time they will sink into your subconscious. Until this becomes your natural way of thinking.
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